What do you do if a girl wonders why you're being so friendly when you're actually trying to game?

2016-04-28T19:38:16+00:00

If you suddenly start gaming people at your work, when you previously haven't they, are going to freak out.

Depending on the job, the potential to fuck up is extremely high.

TheXXL · 2016-04-29T12:17:02+00:00

I agree with other comments on that "don't shit where you eat" rule, but I think your problem was not "gaming her", but probably more a problem with calibration. It seems to me like you are more on the introvert side of things, which would explain her reaction towards you, since a change from shy, silent to outgoing, touchy and vocal is very irritating to people who know you from before. My advice is to keep your game out of your work and practice on people who don't know you, there you will get a feeling for the calibration.

recyclablebanthas · 2016-04-29T18:06:08+00:00

I decided to apply some of what I read to a co-worker. I talked to her more and tapped her on the shoulder.

Couple things:

Don't approach from behind.
What did you "apply" when you interacted with her?

Later at lunch she told me that she was scared at first but now she realized that I'm just a friendly guy.

Escalation doesn't need to be in the first meeting.

EDIT: there's no rule for escalation. It shouldn't be fast or slow, necessarily. You simply proceed carefully, with "accidental" SMALL contact and depending in her reaction, you can continue. Or not.

Like if she flinches or some other negative response, back off. If she leans into it or stays neutral, keep going slowly. And every so often, back off just to see if she really wants you in her space.

That wasn't my intention but I nodded anyway and said "yeah, I'm friendly" because I don't want to get into an awkward situation in my job.

Look, people say, "don't shit where you eat." This is bullshit. There's nothing wrong with it if you know what you're doing. If you can date without leaving drama before, after, or during the dating process, then it's fine to date normally with coworkers.

But don't do your 100 sets challenge at work. Don't practice new concepts at work. Don't date coworkers, period, if you have a penchant for attracting drama to your love life.

So I tried to "game" a co worker indirectly through eye contact and touching but she misinterpreted it for my natural friendliness.

That didn't sound indirect. It sounded awkward. And it sounds like she cut you slack and have you an out. Sounds like she wasn't interested and didn't want office drama.

BuyerOfCoins · 2016-04-28T20:55:58+00:00

Dont shit where you eat. Old saying here. That said, you didn't make your intentions clear obviously so you didn't game anyone.

thrway178920 · 2016-04-28T18:30:11+00:00

You need to make your intentions clear. There are a multitude of threads on here that have good info on how to do that, read through them.

You might also consider that she knows your intent and this is her way of politely declining. I'm not saying that's the case, but it's good to keep in mind especially if you find yourself obsessing over this one woman.

Title	What do you do if a girl wonders why you're being so friendly when you're actually trying to game?
Author	taytoa
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Comments	12
Date	April 28, 2016 6:07 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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