Hello Seddit, long time, infrequent poster here. I've always appreciated the tips, threads, and field reports I've read on here, so now here I am posting my first field report. This is a recap of how all the various things that we discuss on here came to pay off in a very awkward situation.

Background

So, around New Year's I met this girl. I was not interested in her, but somehow we ended up bumping into each other about once a month. Last month, she randomly invites me to her birthday party. I had met some of her friends in the times I had bumped into her and thought they were cute, so I accepted her invitation thinking that at the very least I would be able to talk up her friends.

The Party

The Party was typical for those of us in our mid-twenties - lots of drinking, especially for the Birthday Girl. I, however, practiced moderation, especially since I knew I would be driving that night and because I just like to be tipsy when chatting with new girls and trying to build a rapport. During this time, I had gravitated towards a girl who I will refer to as Abigail. We had a great conversation for roughly an hour. Then we both noticed the Birthday Girl was beyond wasted. Everyone else was fairly drunk, but tried to keep the party going and trying to encourage her to keep partying.

Being Seductive/Attractive in an Awkward Situation

I'm naturally the chivalrous guy/nice guy, and before seddit I thought that was my downfall with women. Seddit, however, taught me that being me and being confident meant owning my personality, and that my real problem was being a doormat. As such, I've learned how to still be a nice, chivalrous guy without being a doormat, and that was key for what happened next.

I had enough. I grabbed the Birthday Girl and sat her down on her couch. I looked at everybody and kicked them out. Birthday Girl was beyond drunk, and these people were about to get rowdy. I kicked out everyone, except Abigail. We were easily the two most sober people there, and she told me she wanted to make sure her friend was going to be ok.

We spent the night babysitting the Birthday Girl. Now, I wasn't consciously thinking about flirting with Abigail, especially in this situation, but I did using "seduction" techniques with her. I sat with the Birthday Girl in the bathroom while she started vomiting, and I told Abigail, "Do me a favor and get me some water and bread. Oh, and towels, and maybe a change of clothes." Now, this was a favor for the Birthday Girl, but I ended up wording it like Abigail was doing me a favor.

Once the Birthday Girl's stomach settled down, I left the bathroom so Abigail could clean her up. Afterwards, I ended up having to carry the Birthday Girl up to her room. This was easy, it's surprisingly easy to do a fireman's carry to pick up and move people around. But, it was easy to tell Abigail was impressed with how easy it was for me to pick up the Birthday Girl.

Number Close

After we put the Birthday Girl to bed, we grabbed some extra sheets from the closet and ended up sleeping on a sleeper sofa. We talked for maybe another hour or so before we drifted off - no cuddling or making out, just light touching. The next morning, I woke up when she was getting out of bed. We talked a little bit more, checked to make sure the Birthday Girl was ok, and then I asked her if she wanted to get some Breakfast with me. We had a nice breakfast at this place down the street. Once we finished eating, I number closed. She told me I was a really nice guy, and she was shocked because she didn't know anyone who would have spent their entire night babysitting a drunk girl they barely knew. She told me she was having a little dinner party the next night, and said she's love to have me over as her way of saying thanks for taking care of her. I said yes

K Close

I didn't think much about her invitation, but I dressed up nicely, as seddit has taught dressing well is always important. When I arrived at Abigail's, no one else was there. She said everyone else had been cancelling within the last hour, and she was disappointed because she had made enough food for 8, and now there were only 2 of us. That was fine by me. We ate, laughed, and so forth. I asked her leading questions, like how she ended becoming a hotel manager, to get her to talk more so that way she felt more comfortable around me. After dinner, she asked if I felt like sticking around to watch a movie, and I said yes. Once we got on her couch, we didn't even bother with the movie and started making out. Kissing, touching, and so forth for a while, until we heard her roommate and his bandmates coming inside. Mood Killed. It was getting late and I had work the next morning, so I excused myself.

Next Step

Already been texting her a little bit and we have an actual date set up for this weekend.

Techniques/Tips that worked

  • Drinking - I know this sub has split feelings on drinking. I prefer to be slightly tipsy/buzzed if I'm drinking and trying to flirt/attract girls. It's enough to lower my inhibitions if I'm in a new place/situation, but I'm still sober enough to be in control of myself.

  • Confidence - I used to lack a lot of confidence in myself. Seddit taught me that it's ok for me to be me, to be a nice guy. I just had to stop being a doormat. I was too timid. It took time, but the typical advice about hitting the gym and picking up new books and hobbies definitely helped.

  • Asking her to do me favors - Now, I know that I didn't actually ask her to do me any favors, it was all for the Birthday Girl. However, I do ask girls I'm flirty with and trying to build attraction with to do me favors. It gets posted on this sub somewhat regularly - asking someone to do you a favor makes them more endeared to you. This has just become habit for me, and in my mind it helped build the attractions between Abigail and myself.

  • "Being Masculine" - Now this is entirely subjective. In my mind, I was "Masculine" when I took charge and kicked people out. I was "Masculine" when I carried the Birthday Girl to her bed. I think having some idea of being masculine in your mind is good, and then being able to feel as if you're showing it/acting on it helps with your confidence and ultimate projects being attractive.

  • Being myself - I didn't escalate despite sleeping next to her. It's just not my style. I like to get know people more before escalating beyond light touching. For me, I feel like it both conveys a sense of respect to the girl, but also leaves her wondering why I'm flirting with her without escalating/trying to get into her pants. I don't recommend this approach for everyone, I recommend being yourself and doing what comes naturally. I was also a nice guy and chivalrous. It's in my DNA to help people, and so I stayed to take care of someone who had too much fun on her Birthday. Doing so showed Abigail my true colors, and made me attractive to her.

  • Ask leading questions - This also gets posted to the sub somewhat regularly. Asking her leading questions gets her talking more, and as suggested by psychology, lets her feel closer to you. I stick with simple ones, usually "hows" or "whats", like how did you get into your job/industry or what motivated you to learn italian? Usually there's a story behind those types of answers, and you can sit back and let her tell you the story.

Sorry for lengthy Field Report, but I thought I'd go into detail and explain how the culmination of the tips and techniques I've learned from this sub helped me attract a girl I was interested in during a very awkward situation.