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What is a teen to do when he no real friends or social outlets during the holidays?

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June 17, 2016

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Title	What is a teen to do when he no real friends or social outlets during the holidays?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	14
Date	June 17, 2016 10:37 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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[–][deleted] 10 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link

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[–]TheXXL 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Sorry, i worded it too harsh. What i meant is the following: You are 15. You are in a state of growth, both your body and your mind. You should give it space to grow, instead you are trying to put your mind into learning techniques, and fake behavior, and even though this works, it will make your interactions feel fake. You will get used to it, and without proper experience, you will not be able to distinguish between good and bad behavior. Even now you are trying to mimic the "pua elite" the guys that show off to sell their product, and if you ask me, most of those guys are simply not what a attractive man is. They manipulate women into a state where they can do whatever they want.

Sure, some of them only exxagerate to show their customers how easy it can be, but still, without the proper experience you might think it's the way to go.

So, enough with the critique. I want to add some things that i personally think are good: You do something with your life, great. You get confident, that is even more great. You learn to be social and be a fun guy, thats also great. Just don't put your mind into 24/7 learning pickup techniques, over analyzing things etc. It will just hurt your capability to really connect with a girl when you get intimate.

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[–]TheXXL 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm really interested in what you said for your second point, though. You said that PU artists are out there just to manipulate women into doing whatever they want and that they are simply not what an attractive man is.

I'll have to keep it short, don't have much time, but let me tell you this much: The PUA mentality tells you to do things like "freeze out", "negging" etc. Basically manipulating peoples emotions, which is in my opinion fake. It works well, but still it's nothing you should aspire to become.

I certainly wouldn't call myself a PUA artist, but I would like to hear what your idea of an attractive man is, and essentially how you become that.

I could write a whole book about this topic, and fortunately there have been others who have written books. One particular that is being thrown around a lot in this sub is: Models, by Mark Manson. I read into it a few years ago, and didn't finish it, but basically it think it's a good start.

As to what is a attractive man, i will give you some key points:

Being a leader. It means that you know whats best for the ones you lead, and then you go forth, them to follow you.
Being confident. Knowing what you can do, know your value, and act accordingly.
Being vulnerable. Means you can open yourself to people, you know they can not hurt you, and you admit your faults. if you done something wrong, you apologize for it.
Being decisive. You know what you want, if you want something you do everything you can to get it.
Being the Rock. You are unfazed by others emotions, you don't break down by it, you can offer support and know how to handle it. This is imperative in a relationship with a woman, since that's what they look for. If she gets emotional, you know how to support her without getting emotional yourself.
Give value. A really simple example. You are out for lunch, and the waitress brings you your meal, you say thank you. You acknowledge their work, how hard it is and that they deserve a thank you and a tip.
Being fulfilled. You need to find your passions and act on them. You found playing guitar as something you like, enjoy it, practice, become a guitar god if this is what makes you feel passionate about. Things like this will make you fulfilled.
Being honest. This one is self explanatory.
Being bold. You are not scared of rejection, since you have confidence, you know that your life is great, and nothing can change that. This is why you stat your intent when meeting an attractive woman, this is why you escalate when you feel it.

There are more things i could list, but those are pretty much the basic things you should cultivate, aside from outer appearance (clothing, fitness, body posture, body language etc.)

If you have more questions, feel free to PM me, when i have time i will reply in more detail.

[–]Tjamandearl 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

What do you truly enjoy doing?

Finger picking
Masturbation
Sleeping, pissing, eating and shitting

What are you excited by?

Having a profound, articulate conversation with a hot girl. Or, more realistically, pouring out my thoughts with the Dr at my local psychiatric, or school, talking over them with a couch pillow clenched comfortably in my grasp.

What are your dreams?

Career in Advanced 3D Modelling and Character Animation

Places to go

I haven't quite caught the "travel bug" yet, but I did spend 3 weeks in Europe, travelling to England and Spain with my family, grandmother, who recently downsized houses. I'd also like to go to Germany some day, but it is by no means a priority.

languages to speak

German

gigs to see

If I ever get invited to a gig, I'll happily tag along.

instruments to play

Classical guitar

gym goals

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2015/07/27/01/2ADE33C100000578-0-image-m-22_1437955913768.jpg

http://anthonymychal.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/steve_reeves_039.jpg

Looks like I'm all set, lol

[–]Tjamandearl 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You are fucking set. Keep plugging away at all that shit and you'll be a more complete man than me. Assuming finger picking refers to guitar, it will be an awesome way to meet girls, as well as demonstrate value.

I don't know how lax your parents are, but if they're chill then choose a gig to go to yourself with a couple of friends. It will be so worth it.

German is a great language to speak and opens a whole world of hot girls. Save up some money and take a trip around Germany and Austria with friends or solo after high school (I'm guessing you're US based). I just finished up a semester in Vienna and had some of the best times of my life.

Aged 15-18 I met the best girls by messing around with friends and having fun; everything falls into place when you're enjoying yourself. What's your friendship group like, and are you athletic? I wasn't always popular or a player, but being on sports teams really helped socially.

Stick at it. You're already ahead of your peer group.

EDIT: Steve Reeves - great shout. As a weightlifter, this is the dream.

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