I like a lot of "girly" things and don't like a lot of "manly" things. I'm guessing this is bad, right? How should I approach this?

loyalop · 2014-08-01T19:01:38+00:00

Miyamoto Musashi, the baddest ass swordsman in history liked poetry and water color painting as well as killing people in sword duels. Offset your yin activities with yang activities like Brazilian Jiu jitsu or wood working. Being yourself is an alpha attitude.

Aldovar · 2014-08-01T21:37:02+00:00

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loyalop · 2014-08-01T19:03:54+00:00

Watching sports and drinking certain beverages doesn't make you one bit alpha.

[deleted] · 2014-08-01T20:02:23+00:00

I enjoy a lot of girly things too. I'm not going to change my preferences just to fit in a stereotype.

Still, you've got to acknowledge the social image that some of these things convey. I wouldn't tell a first date that I can sew, cook and I'm oddly impressed by women that do their makeup well. Instead I'd go with brewing beer, backpacking or lifting weights, all manly endeavors that I enjoy. I wouldn't order a Cosmo at a bar if I planned on picking up girls or I'd at least have them throw it in a regular glass and call it a Manhattan (nobody drinks Manhattans so don't worry about someone calling your bluff).

Is it alpha or beta? Who gives a fuck. If you like doing it, keep doing it. If it's gay as hell, just don't mention it.

throwawayugh243 · 2014-08-01T20:14:24+00:00

What you listed are not a problem. If you have the right attitude, confidence and dodge women's shit tests, you actually stand out. It shows that you are so confident in yourself that these kinds of activities do not diminish your self esteem.

You will stand out too. Kind of like peacocking. Its all about the right frame.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-08-02T02:52:04+00:00

That is quite a list. The problem is not that you like them. The problem is that very, very few women will be sexually excited about a man they are with engaging in such things. Now if you are a massive, masculine MMA fighter you can play the dandy and slay it like crazy with this list. If you are a regular guy who hopes to create a rain storm in the misty jungle between your woman's legs I would not pick more than 2.

Please consider your brainwashing in this Disney culture and whether these are things you really like. More importantly, consider some masculine pursuits to offset this cringing list.

Full disclosure: I like all of these things also (except the fruity drinks) but I am a martial artist, a black belt, a football coach, you get the idea.

[deleted] · 2014-08-02T03:09:44+00:00

Get a sex change.

boscoist · 2014-08-01T20:27:55+00:00

Dude, it doesn't matter if she's interested in you at all. I used to have my warhammer models laying around and every single chick that was interested would look at them and gush about how cool they look (i'm not good modeler or painter, passable at best) before hoping straight to the real reason we were in my room. If I can still make it with what is essentially D&D plus, don't worry about shit like that. Just own it, don't be embarrassed or shy about it.

Misteralcala · 2014-08-01T22:18:51+00:00

Dude. This totally came to mind when I saw your post!

yeahweewee · 2014-08-02T06:02:36+00:00

Beer is actually estrogen inducing and is the very opposite of a "manly" thing

Sports are the opposite of "manly" as they are sad men looking for entertainment or living out dreams they still regret

You can like fashion design and be a vegan and still act masculine, read the side bar nothing in red pill dictates your "interests"

kborz1 · 2014-08-01T18:56:52+00:00

You would have to be one hell of an alpha to pull off laying all of that on a girl. Keep it to yourself especially at first. They don't need to know that sit about you anyway.

Title	I like a lot of "girly" things and don't like a lot of "manly" things. I'm guessing this is bad, right? How should I approach this?
Author	StarDestinyGuy
Upvotes	7
Comments	15
Date	August 1, 2014 6:43 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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