Are Tinder Girls Always This Flakey? (2 Matches, both when getting down to the date go silent)

VanillaThunder324 · 2016-09-05T06:54:20+00:00

Since there hasn't been anyone else posting my only idea is that you're scheduling too far out? I'm by no means an expert at this but when I was playing the tinder game I had the highest success with the following -

Go through a whole bunch of people at once, message any matches
Ignore the app for a day or two and see if I get any matches
If someone matches while you're not on the app then they're bored enough to be on tinder right then so it's a good time to start talking
Go through whatever conversation you started and just drop in a casual date suggestion based on how things feel (coffee or a drink are super easy ones)

I would almost always meet with them that day or the next and if they started to give the signs of being only passively interested despite me doing my best to lay on the charm I'd just chalk it up as a miss and try again

TheXXL · 2016-09-05T09:31:12+00:00

Those are just two girls, don't make assumptions on it, the information base is too thin for that. Just next them since they obviously are not interested. It happens. Just look for the ones that are interested and be aware that a lot of women go on tinder to feel wanted, get attention or simply out of boredom.

You are trying to go the fast route by asking them out immediately, which is pretty good but doesn't work most of the times in online dating. Girls don't know you, they don't trust you, and they are always concerned that you might be a creep or a stalker. It is simply impossible for them to assess your personality from 4 written sentences, while in real life they see much easier if you are a needy creep or a sexy valuable man.

That being said, the fast route might work from time to time, but don't expect it to work as often as building rapport with her and then asking her out.

d1770 · 2016-09-06T02:41:21+00:00

They didn't seem interested in talking to you in the first place. Move on

Iamalmosttherereddit · 2016-09-14T21:38:02+00:00

Girls on tinder can get over 100 matches a day, and 98% of those guys sending them messages. After an hour of tinder, she feels validated and confident and you are no longer needed.

I think tinder is kind of a waste of time considering there hundreds of guys messaging the same girl you are. So she gets all this attention and then doesnt need anymore. This is why being able to pick up a girl in person works, because you are able to demonstrate how you are so different than every other nice guy shes interacted with that day, week, month.

Ive read reports of guys who do not want to be duchy guy with a shirtless photo of their abs... but when they do, the girls are falling all over him. No game needed on tinder. Just be ripped with good photos of your muscles and not be clueless.

Another thing I have learned, once you get good a pulling women, it becomes a somewhat empty game. Its like whoohoo, i figured this out. Now lets go do something fulfilling like fishing.. idk but eventually you can take everything you learned and apply it to the real world, start a business. And then you will be having authentic relationship that just happen spontaneously without 'sarging' and stuff. Because your life is full because you are smart well developed guy. This is when getting girls becomes easy and you become picky. This is when you see the flaws in hot women and can call them on it assertively.

If you have a good job or business and you make good money, drive a nice car, have a bunch of friends, in good shape, this is all apart of being a high value male.

I read a report of one guy who would have a date and wouldnt mind spending the money to hire a helicopter(its not AS expensive as you think it is) to fly him and her around the city for an afternoon. He mentioned how one woman had a husband in NY or something, but if he wanted her in chicago, she would jump at the invitation because she KNOWS when she is with that guy, SHE IS GOING TO HAVE AN AMAZING TIME.

Another guy I read a report from once. His angle was, you can find true love in pickup and ONS. His opinion, when the chemistry is right, you can find a lover or soulmate... but for 1 night. He picked up a girl in airport, she was having trouble with gate agent, she was stressing out, her flight eventually got canceled, he invited her to a bar in the airport, i think he missed his flight on purpose or they both got canceled. He ordered her drink before she arrived from her gate. They hit it off, he bought a hotel room for the night, and he explained it was one of the best ONS he ever had.

His other points were: you need to have some money so you can buy the drink, cab, fancy hotel, another airplane ticket, a helicopter ride. If not than what kind of high value guy are you.

Doing all this is not necessary, ive hooked up with plenty of girls when I was completely broke, but the quality of girl you will likely encounter will be many levels up from those you'll be meeting when you are broke.

Title	Are Tinder Girls Always This Flakey? (2 Matches, both when getting down to the date go silent)
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Date	September 5, 2016 6:35 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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