Hello Gentleman.
I can't remember that last time I actually was in "Game" mode. I'm 31 and just got out of a relationship. I am pretty Rusty. In terms of women, I BARELY react with them in real life. I sort of have been trying to "Get out of my shell" and say Hi in the past week.
I say Hello, make a joke, or make small talk lately everywhere, (Or make a note of it) - Havn't done any cold approaching yet. I am a pretty decent alright looking guy, 6'2; toned, etc. On a good day I get ladies looking at me. On a bad day, well, sometimes seems I'm invisible to them lol.
Now here is something that has been boggling my mind lately. I might have talked about this before. Online, I am practically invisible to women. Facebook, POF, OKCupid, etc. I can sit there and send messages all day and not get a single response. I think my response rate is somewhere around 1/100 - lol.
I recently read an article on a guy who sent out 10,000 tinder likes and only got 10 dates out of it. @_@ - So I'm not sure if anyone is reflecting that experience. I go on facebook, and I notice that the hot girls just collect friends and never message anyone back and get all the dudes drooling on them.
Now IRL it's a totally different story. I practice Nofap, and I am about 6'2. When I look at women or approach them they turn into mush around me. I recently was practicing flirting for the first time in, a VERRRY long time at the store with some cashier and she just giggled, some even turn red a few times so IMO, I'm they're super responsive IRL - just online I am chopped liver.
I think because, IRL they can see my posture, body language and energy which is pretty strong. (Thanks to Nofap? I guess) - So this is a good thing, and not bad for a rusty guy. My interaction with women IRL are ALWAYS good. They are always responsive, smiling, and kind to me.
Online I am practically invisible. This has lead me to not waste really much time online.
Do you guys have any more tips for a guy to get out of his shell? For the first time in a very long time, I actually went out for the specific purpose to talk to chicks and I am a total n00b at it. Lol. but I did ok, I flirted with a few cashiers and store girls and it felt pretty awesome.
I also walked around Walmart (I know sad) - and spotted a few hotties; and was trying to think of something strategically to say to them but couldn't off the top of my head.
One last thing. I do work out but I do bodyweight exercises, I have a toned physique but I am not like, Super buff you know. Does lifting weights, getting bigger help you with the ladies more?
I recall, 8 years ago when I was into bodybuilding, I was pretty big. I was benching about 270 and I remember that I would go into a bar and could just stand there, and some ladies would call me over to sit with them, which never happened to me before, so I suppose having size helps lol.
But I'm more of a lean tall guy. Anyway all advice is appreciated from everyone here.
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