Was my text too needy or too independent?

boolshynet · 2016-10-17T13:06:36+00:00

fun and flirty > aloof and unavailable

your texts don't provoke any interest or emotion... "If you insist" that's a really bitchy thing to say. leave her alone for a while and see if she gets back to you.

bigassbigtitties · 2016-10-17T14:33:52+00:00

You definitely didn't come off as too needy, if that's all you sent. You definitely are freaking out way too much in this post, but just keep that inside your head. Heck, try going and talking to some other girls to get your mind off her. Like, I seriously suggest doing anything that will prevent you from thinking about her or wanting to text her for a good 24-48 hours or so.

You're "burning out" on this girl and you just need to step back and get some perspective and recharge.

I think she is on the up n up and has realized you are interested in her. That's about a 50 percent chance. The other 50 percent chance is that she's legit busy. Like it's getting close to the end of the semester, she has this new job to worry about.

If you want to text her, text her about fun conversation topics. Like idk music or tv -- not something lame like "sooo what kinda music do you listen to", but like, something you know is relevant from previous convos.

And you kinda have friendzoned yourself a little by now. Like, girls get hit on all the time, so it's refreshing for them to have a guy they can just study with, just talk to, who isn't trying to fuck them.

And as long as she's getting back to you, please do not obsess over short gaps to 1 minute precision lol.

You sound woefully un-busy, and I think trying to give off the image without actually being busy may be kind of obvious... idk, lot to read into the scant info here.

also

Totally backfired

do you mean she just said "nahh i'm good" or it legit backfired, because it sounds like this is still very much in the open. don't take the minutae so seriously, try to see the larger picture

hellz yeah i love typing

Woujo · 2016-10-17T15:03:11+00:00

Well 8 weeks in I asked her to dinner and we went!

Ugh don't wait so long next time. This is how you get friendzoned.

She always answers my 1st text within 5-30 minutes and each response after that is always within 1 min. Here she took 2 hours to answer me and had nothing to say really. I was trying to appear as though Iam busy but trying to meet her. I didnt want to look like I was overly available.

This is why PUA shit is garbage. You overthink things, you try to play games, and you end up fucking it up.

This is ridiculous. You are way over thinking this. The key to vibing with a girl is getting on the same emotional plane and just playing off of each other. You text when you feel like it is appropriate, not based on some dumb mathematical formula you read on the internet. For you to be literally counting the minutes is creepy, stalker behavior.

For a woman to like you, her emotions have to be engaged. So you have to be able to read her emotions. I don't know what kind of emotional vibe you guys had, so I can't tell you how you should have done it, but I think your whole approach to this is wrong. Just try being a human and not a PUA robot.

"If you insist"

This is needy and pathetic. Don't ever text anything like this again.

Questionnaire7 · 2016-10-20T00:04:44+00:00

CALL her, don't text her,sheesh. You aren't showing enough interest and using up romantic capital on her, so she's going to blow you off because why should she bother with a distant guy.

leprogrammist · 2016-10-17T13:28:07+00:00

Probably not interested the young lady. I think you need not make up stories. When you have time you can say I have time. When you don't have time you don't. No need to invent something. You wouldn't want a girl to make up stuff would you? Men can be straight forward. Let women find the excuses. Make it easy on yourself. That way you can always avoid that you fuck it up because you weren't honest.

Title	Was my text too needy or too independent?
Author	Questionnaire7
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	October 17, 2016 12:44 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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