Ok i am a very helpful guy. I do it just cause. But im starting to think that people find that unattractive. People will call me when they need assistance but never anytime else while they hang out constantly with other people. Even my mom wrote in a letter to me that she was always on my case to do stuff and guilt tripped me because she knew id do it while my bro and sis didnt care. I think that has something to do with how i think.

Anyway i find that its pretty useless to help others just cause. A girl hit me up and asked if i could take her to the dentist cause no one else would and i said yeah. While we were there we talked a little. But then the next week she didnt even acknowledge me. I have a lot more situations like that and i want to change. How do i know when and when not to help people?

Right now a guy hmu asking if he could borrow my iron to let a girl (that i also like) use. On one hand its a super simple thing to do and guess he's already got the girl over me but on the other hand im not gaining anything and im helping him with the girl i want. What would an attractive mindset do in situations where theres no gain?