Looks?

jsbach123 · 2017-01-18T08:23:34+00:00

If you draw self-esteem from your appearance, it's a recipe for disaster. You'll never be good-looking enough and there will always be guys better looking than you. That will make you perpetually insecure, which is fatal to your love life.

To be sure, your looks matter. That's why you want to do what you can reasonably do to improve it.

But women are clearly far more forgiving over a man's physical imperfections than men are with a woman's. Hence, that is why you see the ugly, fat, bald guys with hotties all the time.

While women are forgiving over your physical imperfections, they are brutally unforgiving over your personality flaws such as being insecure, not being aggressive and sexual, being petty, being needy, having no ambitions, and other low-value male traits that have zilch to do with your looks.

There are a many strategies to improve self esteem, most of which stem from having an active interesting lifestyle, maintaining ambitious goals in life, surrounding yourself with great friends, and being an all-around good guy. If you feel damn-fucking good about yourself, you're 90% there when it comes to women. The rest is just minor tactics.

If you keep staring at yourself in the mirror thinking if you're good-looking enough women will come flocking, you are seriously mistaken. It just doesn't work like that.

ajtorresm · 2017-01-18T08:21:49+00:00

Can you explain what your insecurities are? For example, the best way to deal with weight is to get fit. Chances are, you won't be taken seriously by many chicks (key word: many) if you are fat. Fitness shows that you give a shit about your appearance. If you are insecure about baldness there is not much you can do. Just shave your head and rock the bald look confidently.

DariusSSfJ · 2017-01-18T08:52:45+00:00

Well that's a topic that seems to come up often. The recipe to deal with your insecurities is actually quite simple:

Deal with aspects that are in your control. Physique is the most obvious here because honestly, if you're overweight/skinny and don't like it, it's only on you, it's something that you can change with time and effort.
Accept and be mindful of the aspects that you cannot control. Something like height is an aspect that you cannot really control. It is as it is. So the best thing you can do for your mental health is to accept it and start being mindful about the language you use during self-talk.

See "The Body Image Workbook" by Thomas Cash if you're interested to learn more.

I've seen videos of bald/fat etc. people killing it

Those are more of an exception than the rule. The reason you see those videos/they are advertised is because of how uncommon it is (outside of situations where massive wealth/social status plays a role). Btw, why people always put "bald" in the same category as "fat" - you can look fucking amazing if you're bald, but that's hardly doable if you're fat.

Xanarxses · 2017-01-18T16:14:00+00:00

A - Stop caring. When it comes to women that's the least of your worries.
B - Take care of yourself. Vadim from Honest Signalz isn't good looking but he's groomed. RSDTyler isn't good looking either but he's groomed.

Grooming is far more valuable than your natural features.

There ARE of course cases where dudes are just a freak show but I doubt you're one of those.

If you're balding, go full on bald and own it.

And if you're fat. Unfat yourself.

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-01-18T17:55:31+00:00

Work on improving them.

Dress to impress, get a decent hair cut from a stylist, eat right (cut out the sugar), and work out a few times per week.

Do these things and you will not only be healthier, you will look and feel better too.

Think about how you feel in a new car. Now, how do you feel getting into a 20 year old car? Same car. Turn your self into a new shiny car.

Title	Looks?
Author	starwars765
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	January 18, 2017 6:51 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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