Met with some resistance from girl I'm trying to make a plate?

secret_barber · 2014-09-09T14:30:25+00:00

Forget the label "plate" and what you think it means. Be honest and direct with what you're looking for and the value you offer - either she's into it or not. A simple deflection and reiteration of getting together would likely bypass her text reservations - "I'm not worried about it. Let's go have fun." If she's cold in person, compare what you're getting against what you want. Then, move forward.

Certainly don't ever think you've got a plate "secured." Spinning plates fall.

HardPillToSwallow · 2014-09-09T14:42:52+00:00

Take a step back basically means "I feel slutty for jumping on your dick so fast that I've lost some respect for myself and I'm worried you feel the same, so I'm going to say things went too fast to save face but really I want to continue jumping on your dick."

My most recent plate did this. This is something I've encountered a lot with girls so I set my verbal frame to agree, I'll even bring it up early in conversation - "I dont like to rush things with woman, I like to take things slow" as I'm basically rubbing her thigh and she's whimpering like a sad dog. Its a form of ASD and as with all ASD you agree verbally but continue as if it means nothing.

Sometimes I'll even not sleep with them on the first date, but that is harder to pull off. I was leaving a bar with a chick and I said

"well we could get taxis home from there"

"Are you asking me to go home with you"

"Well I wasn't but that doesn't sound like a bad idea, but I would feel pressured to try and sleep with you if you did come"

"Oh Dont worry we will just hang out and watch a movie."

Lots of heavy petting and rutting later she came over nearly 2-3 times a week since with no objections because I pre-emptively disarmed her ASD by having one myself.

That is one way I've been testing the waters with ASD.

Brocccooli · 2014-09-09T17:03:03+00:00

The other people in this thread have it pretty down-pat, but I'd like to clarify what a "plate" is, as you don't seem to know.

A plate is ANY woman you are currently interacting with on a semi regular basis. They do NOT have to be women you are currently fucking / hooking up with, they are simply women that are in your lives that are either a. sexually active with you or b. potential future sexual prospects.

Spinning plates fall all the damn time, and that's fine. Abundance mentality allows you to know that when one plate falls, another will eventually take its place.

For a nice read on spinning plates and what they are check out:

[deleted] · 2014-09-09T14:30:38+00:00

You made her feel like a slut because you had sex too soon and now she is uncomfortable because she thinks that is all that you want.

sparta126 · 2014-09-09T14:32:55+00:00

That's not resistance. That's the female hamster. She's rationalizing why she hooked up with you last time. I usually ignore these. I suggest a new meet up time/place then proceed. If she tries to push back and says she wants a step back in person , be clear that there will be no steps back if she wants to continue seeing you.

rufusjonz · 2014-09-09T14:41:19+00:00

sidenote: It's funny how many women (guys do it too, but more often women) rationalize/forget/lie to themselves about random hookups like this later on. One reason why women's true number is often so much higher than they claim.

SkorchZang · 2014-09-10T02:08:05+00:00

"maybe we should take a step back? I'd like to take things a little slower"

Assuming you haven't done anything to over-pursue her (i.e. texting too much, being mushy, talking about locking her pussy down as your exclusive domain), then that comment of hers is just not important. It's like the girl saying "omg, I'm smitten with you, and a little bit scared", ok girl thnx for the info. It's exactly where you want her to be, so just keep on rolling!

You never "move backwards" or "take it slow" with a girl, doesn't matter what she says, that's a blue pill mistake. You should have zero respect for her desire to be more in control of her emotions and your interactions. Smirk at it, and keep on going, being the charming loveable villain you are.

[deleted] · 2014-09-09T18:20:23+00:00

Answer : "Cool, bye."

Get back on tinder and get the next one.

Title	Met with some resistance from girl I'm trying to make a plate?
Author	mechanubis
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Date	September 9, 2014 2:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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