So this subreddit has a Frequently Asked Questions, but I have some more FAQs that I see posted here a lot. This is a very rough attempt, please let me know if I am missing something.
So, I've been talking with this girl over snapchat/facebook/text/whatsapp/homing pigeon/etc...
Stop right there. You're getting played. Long text conversations are a bad idea 99% of time because they don't build attraction and are usually just a way for a girl to get validation and attention from you without investing anything in you. You should ask the girl out NOW. If she won't go out with you or meet you in person, she's not interested and is wasting your time.
Well, then, how much should I text?
Ask yourself this: how willing is she to hang out with you in person? If it's 0, you text her 0. If she comes out and hangs out with you, feel free to text her a little bit. But overall, the main rule is that you must be less emotionally invested in her. If she won't hang out with you in person, then she's not emotionally invested in you at all. Texting stupid chit chat is not something guys enjoy doing, and girls know this, so if you're texting her all day, she is exercising power over you.
Somebody tell me how to walk into a nightclub/daygame/bar/etc... and get laid.
This is way too broad of a question. You need to ask something more specific. At least read the sidebar materials to start with.
She flaked/didn't answer my texts/says she's busy.
Women flake or go unresponsive for 2 reasons:
1) You didn't build an adequate emotional connection with them when you were around them in person, so now they don't feel emotionally invested in you or care about you. If you don't tingle a woman's emotions, she will literally forget who you are. Women have lots of options, so they are only going to put on their make-up and come out to meet you if you made some emotional impact on them.
OR
2) You came of ass needy, desperate, aggressive, and/or creepy. This is perfectly natural for guys because we are a lot more "short term" than women. It's hard to dig yourself out of this hole once you've dug it.
If a woman flakes or ghosts, it's probably over. You can't build attraction over text, so your best bet is to just move on. If you see her in person again, make sure you build an emotional connection before you try to hang out with her.
How do I be less desperate/creepy/needy?
You need to be less emotionally invested in girls. You do this by building an awesome life, having boundaries, and keeping your thoughts and emotions on stuff that isn't girls. Girls are the dessert to an awesome life, not the main course.
I'm scared of meeting girls in person. How do I meet girls on Facebook/snapchat/tinder, etc...
You need to figure out how to meet people in person. If you don't have the confidence to approach a woman in person you're not going to have the confidence to get them in bed. Sorry.
My conversations are going nowhere.
Your conversations are going nowhere for 1 of 3 reasons:
1) You are not confident. You could be saying the most deep, touching, brilliant, funny shit to a woman but if you are doing it unconfidently and awkwardly she's not gonna want to hear it.
2) You are not finding something interesting to talk about. You need to find something deep and interesting that you are both interested in. It may take a few questions or scanning to find this subject, but once you do, you're golden. Meaningless chit chat is boring and unmemorable.
or
3) She just doesn't want to talk to you and nothing you say or do can ever change that. In that case, move on.
Usually it's a combination of 2 & 3.
How do I be confident?
This is a long process, but basically confidence means "with faith," so you have to just do everything as if you have faith you will succeed.
I'm scared to approach.
You're scared to approach for 1 of 2 reasons:
1) You are thinking too much about approaching, which is causing you anxiety and fear. You are building this thing up in your head when it really shouldn't be. People approach each all the time to talk. It's not a big deal. Stop thinking about it and just go do it. The less thoughts in your head, the better.
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2) You secretly think of "approaching" as some predatory thing where you get in a girl's face and immediately start putting on an act to get her to fuck you. That's not how it should be. Whenever you approach a woman, it should be just to get a conversation going. I "approach" people all the time - at the grocery store, in the elevator, etc.. Not because I want to fuck, but just because it's fun to talk to people. A woman isn't going to fuck you until she becomes emotionally invested in you, and that only happens after you guys build a rapport. So just focus on building a rapport first - stop thinking about "gaming" girls.
I feel weird/awkward/creepy when approaching.
A situation is weird or awkward because you are letting it be weird or awkward. If you own it and do it confidently, nothing is weird or awkward.
Creepiness is when you are overly emotionally invested. Don't be creepy - focus your thoughts and emotions on something other thang irls.
I don't have any friends, social scene, etc...
Dude, you need to find friends. Period. You can't have a healthy social life or relationship without friends. If you rely on women for your human relationships, you're going to have a bad time.
How do I make friends?
Go places where people with your interests hang out: clubs, concerts, arts scene, etc... And just talk to people. There is no magic formula to making friends.
I am depressed, anxious, etc...
This is not something this sub can fix. You need to find a therapist or something. There are a lot of good resources on the internet, but some horny dudes on r/seddit can't fix your deep-seated mental issues.
Do looks matter?
Yes. But they matter less for girls than they do for guys, and you can make up for being short/ugly/fat/etc... by having other awesome traits. But of course, you want to go into the game with the best deck you can so improve anything that you can improve.
There's this girl in my class that I see all the time, how do I ask her out?
At some point, you need to learn that you should immediately approach people you want to have a relationship with. If you've "seen" her a while and said nothing, it's now a little weird. But you can't change the past, so your best bet is to walk up to her and say "hey sorry I haven't introduced myself earlier, I am X, and [some things you guys might connect on]." Chat for a while, and ask her out if she shows interest.
How do I approach a group of girls?
Approach them as a group. "Hi guys, I'm X! I wanted to come say hi. You guys look like fun" Talk to them all equally and don't focus on any one girl. Anybody who is interested in you will naturally gravitate towards you.
So there's this girl at my work...
Don't shit where you eat. Period. Unless she is your soulmate and you are willing to sacrifice your job for her, it's not worth it. Work relationships almost always go bad.
How do I hit on bartenders/waitresses/etc...
Don't. Those people are getting paid to be nice to you, and hitting on them is rude because you are taking advantage of the fact that they are being paid to be nice to you and can't leave. I get bartenders' and waitresses numbers sometimes, but that's only if they show STRONG, STRONG interest that goes beyond your normal "I'm being nice to you cuz you're the customer" niceness.
How do I get her back?
Move on.
How do I get out of the friendzone?
Move on.
How are girls in X city/country/college/etc... different?
They're not. Of course, there are cultural differences everywhere, but the main stuff about girls (they want confidence, they want an emotional connection, they want a big dick, etc...) are the same everywhere. Seduction is 99% the basics of human nature and 1% the cultural idiosyncracies of any particular city, etc... If you start thinking that girls are different in different situations or cities, you will create new anxieties for yourself and new reasons to not approach.
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