Date with girl but felt like we were joking too much

TunechiOnYoTunaFish · 2017-05-22T16:03:13+00:00

Joking and being obnoxious is a great way to open a brand new girl, because it heightens her emotional state and makes her focus on you. Once you have her attention, you have to switch to building attraction--and here, Madison is right; clowns don't build attraction. You can still playfully poke fun at her--not anything truly insulting or even a "neg"; try watching a group of loud teenagers next time you're in public. There is always a charismatic funny guy flirting with the girls in the group, getting all the attention. Be that guy. He's not a clown; he's a flirt.

Once it's clear you have attraction, build comfort. Bring the tone down, talk about more serious things, reveal things about yourself, but make sure she is always trying a little harder than you are. Make sure to escalate kino--touch her more and more as the interaction goes on, and push the type of touch just a tad further each time; you want her to get comfortable with your physical touch.

Yankee_Fever · 2017-05-22T16:01:53+00:00

The only thing that matters is sexual chemistry.

And if you want to get "technical" by you saying, "I got a make out out of it" implies you are stealing value from her.

Other than that. Stop being technical

jayfoxpox · 2017-05-22T18:29:57+00:00

its just the first date, just focus on having fun in the meantime and in the future you can be in a more intimate setting. I recently lost my virginity, but I never really made a big deal about it. All I did was met up with her, focused on having fun and connect to her at a personal level by having walks with her to have a meaningful conversation on w/e comes to our head. Had a late movie night, snuggled a bit, then banged her for 3 hours.

Woujo · 2017-05-22T19:12:18+00:00

agree with the comments here. stop worrying about the lingo and have fun and get sexual

recyclablebanthas · 2017-05-23T05:34:27+00:00

_1_

Went on a date with this girl yesterday. We actually met through social media, and if you guys aren't aware yet theres this knew thing called "Social media game".

That's great this worked out for you. Just be careful about putting too much emphasis on trying to meet girls you've never met via social media. Unless it's actually a dating platform like Tinder or what have you, it's hit or miss whether some girl is going to respond the way you want to a random message from a stranger. Even if you have mutual friends.

p.s. It's new. :P

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Throughout the date, I was joking for attraction (push pull) and talking about real shit for comfort (connection). I read from somewhere that you need a mix of comfort, attraction, and *** for a successful date.

*** ?

In any case, connection doesn't materialize just because you talk about "real shit." You have to get her talking and holding up her half of the conversation. And then under those conditions, if you're confident, you'll find out if there's mutual attraction. You'll truly find out if attraction is there, as you escalate; her reactions will show you whether she's attracted and up for it.

But there are no guarantees. Anyone who says otherwise, is selling something. The best "players" can't guarantee a win; they just make the most out of the hand they're dealt. So accept that sometimes it's just not going to be your fault. Sometimes a thing just isn't going to work out no matter how you play it.

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Since she was joking the entire time, was i suppose to set the frame and do the connection/comfort? I remember watching Madison's video and he said to not be the joking clown. Because the funny comedian doesn't get laid.

The mistake is becoming an entertainer in a one-sided interaction. If you're both holding up the conversation and it happens to be funny, that's fine.

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I felt chemistry between us but at the same time I sense something was missing from the interaction. I was escalating physically but the furthest i went was a make out.

Went? So it's done? You won't see her anymore?

In any case, of course some girls just won't be down for sex the first time. Just because a guy is charming, doesn't change a girl's values. Some girls just don't want to go there as fast as others. Game doesn't really change that.

NewbieCasanova · 2017-05-22T21:21:30+00:00

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Jacob_961 · 2017-05-23T08:57:22+00:00

Dude... you got a make-out. What do you need to feel that you are on the right track? A girl doesn't make out if she doesn't find you attractive. Do a day 2 and take her home, it's a done deal really. Dude... what do you need to feel she's hooked, she should suck you off in the car or something? She likes you, just do a day 2 and fuck. Damn man... something was off because you felt something was off. There is nothing off.

NewbieCasanova · 2017-05-22T19:19:31+00:00

just wanted you to know this is why im unsubscribing.

bunch of bros who are worried that they made a girl laugh too much and of course THATS the reason you didn't get your dick sucked. It couldnt possibly be that you're a douchebag trying to get it in on the first date and it's inherently off-putting or anything.

you can't break every woman into a formula.

get some real game, chump.

Title	Date with girl but felt like we were joking too much
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Date	May 22, 2017 3:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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