Had a third date last saturday which went quite well but also quite disturbing. We had nice conversations again and due to liquid courage we both had we ended fumbling quite a lot. It was not bad then we had the talk what I am acutally looking for. I said due the fact that I am staying the states (I am originally from Austria) only until late december or maybe the first half of January at best for work related education I am just looking into casual dating without thinking that much about serious commitment. Her reply was quite disturbing. She said I do not come of as f**ck buy that I appear more to be a serious relationship guy.

Have to say she is not wrong. Just had 3 long term relationships in the past and normally that is what I prefer. But being at a place for only a short amount of time and having long term relationship is not going a work.

I still have some desires I want to fullfil to be honest and getting good at casual dating is the best and only way fullfill my desires.

But without changing the vibe it could be difficult. This lady was totally seeing through me.

Do we have any gus here that were rather good ltr guys that changed guys good at casual dating without thinking about any commitments ?

If so how did you change your vibe?

My plan ist not to turn into fully fledged fu**ckboy I just want to appear congruent with women. I think you can fully relate that a statement like you appear to be more a long term relationship guy when suggesting you are more into casual dating kills the game.

The date did not end after that dialoge and it was not total diseaster. But her statement still made me think about it?

Any advice from the pro would be more than welcome.