Nice guy” has become a negative trope in the seduction community. But I think many people misunderstand the term. It’s often used to describe a man who is only nice to a woman because he expects something in return. I, however, am kind to women because I treat them the way I want to be treated myself.

I don’t hold doors open or do small gestures just to get into someone’s pants. Honestly, I never believed that such gestures would be enough to make anything happen. That would be absurd.

What I still need to work on is finding the right balance—being a ‘good’ nice guy: still polite, but more open and bold about my own needs. Do we have some people here who had a similar strategy to mine to be successful, or is it necessary to follow the rules of being a bad boy literally? It would be great to collect some opinions on that matter.