So this happens most of the times. When I am talking to someone, I can come up with something creative or flirty reply when the conversation is over and when I recall the conversation.

ROBYoutube · 2024-03-08T01:00:54+00:00

How do I come up with something on spot?

You have so many of those types of conversations that eventually it comes naturally.

Sometimes my brain is also blank when they say something, how do I declutter the voidness and always have something to say?

Why is your brain blank? If they are so boring you can't remember what they just said, I wouldn't worry about having something to say because the relationship just isn't going to work.

mkkpt · 2024-03-08T06:23:40+00:00

Work on decluttering your brain before the date.

Hours before the date - Do whatever you need to do to get in a positive state of mind. Meditate, play some music, watch a movie, go to the gym, do something creative, talk to friends / family.

Weeks/Days before a date - Practice good mental and physical health. Do you need to Journal, meditate, socialise, volunteer? Do you have deeper issues and need to talk to a therapist? You should exercise / work out regularly and eat healthy foods. You own whatever hang ups you have, are actively working on things, you know what you want, what makes you happy and have a plan for the future. This will insulate you from most negativity and build a foundation for your character as a person.

Focus on each date being about coming with the intention of being in a positive state, expressing yourself, and seeing who this person is you're interested in. If you've done all the work above, you should be relaxed and having a good time no matter what happens. If you feel attracted, you will naturally want to act on it as a form of your self-expression.

It's also okay to just have a brain fart and not know what to say. If it's a skill issue, work on it. Do you need to join an improv group? Read a comedy writing book? Watch some local comedians? Do you have any funny friends you can practice throwing jokes at each other?

If it's just general nerves - maybe you really like her, whatever. I find the nerves will go down if I have multiple dates planned or coming up. Not everything is riding on this date or what I say next.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-03-08T01:58:58+00:00

Because when the conversation ends the pressure comes off so witty material comes to your mind but it's too late.

Recognize and hold onto the emotional state you feel post conversation when u revert to default and come up with something u should have said.

If you can manage to stay in that state and keep your chi the same before, during, and after the convo, you will naturally be able to come up with good stuff with good timing

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