When beginning pick-up, or talking to girls in general, we've got a lot going on in our minds, and the one thing not to worry about is "How long do I wait to text her again?"

It sounds simple, but the correct answer of when to text a girl is when you want too. These 10-15 min rules, or x amount of days after seeing her, are silly. Using these arbitrary rules has actually cock-blocked far more guys than the Catholic faith. Now hypocritically speaking, there are some rules before we hit my main point.

  • Match her text-message size initially, then increase to see if she copies your increase (mirroring you, a la mirroring body language in person to show interest, you can also begin increasing in your 1st message)

  • While doing this, up the text number itself, seeing if she mirrors you more, then decrease the size and number of texts to see her response (usually a follow-up of large text, then reverting to mirror you again, or in easy agreement (say to meet up), are good signs)

  • This simple game is all you do back and forth, working in logistics as fast as you reasonably can/desire

"BUT WAIT??? What about waiting for X multiplied by Y units of Z until I initiate a follow-up response?"

"Simple. Because that's utter bull-shit. Sincerity is what is best in this situation, and some social acumen."

To explain, all you do is merely respond in kind, and say what you want (following my guidelines above) while interjecting logistics. I've found fast-closing over text vs slow-closing to be relatively equal (if not slightly in favor of slow-closing). Slow-closes can allow you to create a stronger emotional connection which = stronger chance at sex. It is not mentally for her, but for you, as you can feel empowered to escalate quickly when you do meet-up. Imagine having a woman get wet at the thought of fucking you while she eagerly awaits your "coffee" date this coming evening... as opposed to "Yeah, I have this date with some guy, he's cute xD but Idk he may be weird!" Make her want your BIG CUM CUMS!

Now this is all based on context, if you DID have a strong connection in person, it is not required as much. If it was a brief bar meeting, Facebook, Tinder, the grocery line, then it may take some more slow-play. I've found though that the catch is, in both cases slow-closing still aids (ALERT!) in the ability of the woman to "open-up" to you, which is merely her complying with you.

If you want to text more, she texts more. If you want to see her, she works easily with you to see her. This ultimately leads to a meet-up that goes well, and is followed by subsequent meetings, establishing some form of relationship (FWB/LTR).

The caveat to all of this, is that if you focus less on the overall technicalities, and more on self-improvement while actively seeking women, you will find that you can't always text them because there are other obligations (gym, work, studies, reading, boys night, or even texting another girl you want to fuck).

She may text you a joke one moment, and you look at it, smile, and go about your day without saying a word. She may text you a question, and you go into a little more intricacy than usual, just because you want her to know more about you. You do what you want, you enjoy this for what it is: a journey.

You will fail at times, there will be nothing you can do about it, and it may not even be your fault, but you must accept the outcome. This is a great philosophy for life.

While my secret may seem too easy, I promise you, the real key is merely creating a life you enjoy... while simultaneously talking to women. You organize your life to cater to the many obligations you posses due to your willingness to create an interesting individual.

TL;DR

Say you have 2 hours one night after work or school (or both) that you said you'd study, but instead you sit and stress the whole time about Kimmie texting you to get some BIG CUM CUMs. You sit and worry, over-think when to text her "Oh I'll text her in 20 mins." then you sit idly pretending not to be thinking of it. If all you did is say "Well I have 2 hours to study, I'll text her during my 10 min break during the hour." or maybe at work "I have 3 breaks today, I'll check during the middle break to see if Kimmie texted to get some of those BIG CUM CUMS." do you think that'd be better?

Looking at the two scenarios, we have to fill and plan out our days around other things besides girls. When you do this, and hold true to the other obligations in life, you will see that it's best to respond in the most natural and non-obsessive way (as long as it isn't literally autistic, like you say "hey" then she goes "hey how are you?" and you give her a fucking novel about your entire life).

Best of luck guys, first post and I'm super high, so please don't hate... but please give constructive criticism!