Preface

Before you write a comment seething with rage about why one or another approach to meeting women is better than the other, let me first tell you that you’re a leotard. Yes, you read that correctly. I’m clearly referring to the skin-tight one-piece that your grandpa wears when he takes you out swimming at the local YMCA.

Why am I reviving this long dead topic?

It’s because it’s not dead, and there are individuals that, for whatever reason, assume you can only do one or the other. The PUAs who claim “Well, you didn’t game her if you met on an app.” (Actually, you did. If your SMV is high enough, then all the game you need is the utterance of the word “hi”.) On the other side of the fence, we have the group that sits with their hands on their dick at the club when a hot girl enters their vicinity “I’m not drunk enough” or when they’re out shopping at the grocer and pass by a cutie “I don’t know what to say, she’d think I’m a weird if I talk to her.”

TRP is about male sexual strategy. The times in life where you will experience true abundance are when you are able to effectively make use of all means of pussy procurement. This post will dive into the why behind both ways of meeting women, why both are effective, and why at times you may need to resign yourself from one or the other.

Day Game

After moving to the city, I happened to meet an individual who slayed on a level I had seen only a handful of times. This guy was always tackling a new conquest on a weekly, if not at times daily, basis. As our friendship continued, it became apparent that this wasn’t a hobby. Women weren’t the icing on the cake, but the cake itself. This realization led me to see that to achieve consistent success with day game, to the levels I had hoped, a large amount of time was invested. It’s no stretch to claim this friend was going out 3-4x a week to approach, and 1-2x each weekend. While his success with women blossomed, he lacked any talents outside game, and any meaningful relationships with men aside from winging on the weekends.

The above story isn’t to trash day game. When it’s nice out I still deliberately go out to meet new women, and I can tell you it’s exhilarating when you can turn a lazy Saturday afternoon into a sex filled evening with a hottie you had met only hours before. If you want success from day game only, you will need numbers, and lots of them, especially early on. The only people I know that are successful from day game alone are approaching at least around 60-70 women a week. Not a terrible amount, but if you throw in not living in a city center, bad weather, an off day without much foot traffic, etc. you can see how this quickly becomes a more daunting task. Add in your career, gym, hobbies, family, friends, and other girls you’ve hopefully met along this journey and finding the time to devote to this endeavor so consistently becomes difficult.

So what gives? Why would I even pursue this Mr. Incognito if I can fire up Tinder and have pussy on call for weeks on end?

If you can’t talk to women in real life, you will never get true confidence. You will feel disempowered and fearful of real-life interactions, differing to your phone in hopes that you meet a “girl like her” on the app. You’ll be missing out on the first part of game, which is reading if a girl is actually interested or not. Without your cue to talk to her from your testicular-cancer causing device, you’ll be powerless at the shot of meeting women anywhere else out in the wild.

The degree to which you need to do day game really depends. If you lack social skills, have an inability to read body language, and are terribly mortified of speaking to women… Devoting a few days a week early on is a solid plan until you finally can learn to muster up the courage on the fly to talk to the baddie meandering through produce aisle. This confidence will bleed into other facets of life, be it night game or even on dates with your tinderellas. Knowing you can meet a girl, anywhere, anytime, and that it could turn into something is a good feeling. It will take time to cultivate, and once achieved, you’ll still need to maintain it to avoid becoming a social pariah once again.

Where is this problematic? If women become the focal point of your life, eating up all your free time and taking away from your development in other areas of life, that’s where things get dicey. If your persona becomes that of a PUA where all the knowledge contained in your pea brain is how to pick-up girls, even to the point where you start judging what “is and is not” game, based off of say, meeting women online or in person, then it’s clear as day you’re starting to develop a personality and an ego surrounding women. This is the opposite of what you should be doing with your life. Women are the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.

Day game is also difficult if you live in a rural area. Driving 45 minutes to talk to girls is impractical, and if you want to advance yourself in this specific area you’ll need to move to an urban center. I’d second this for online dating since your pool of potential women will skyrocket when you leave mom and dad’s place in the boonies and venture out into the world.

Online Dating

Time and time again I’ve seen men get caught up in the most benign rejections. “I went to the club and got rejected 3 times!” or “After a year I finally did it and approached my gym crush, but she blew me off.” It’s as if in their mind they deserve some special award for talking to a girl in real life. Not realizing the real world doesn’t recognize this as a feat worth any merit.

You talked to a girl.

Their inability to face rejection and keep their ego intact leaves them stuck in a childlike state, where even the tiniest slight to who they are as a man brings their house of cards shattering down to the ground.

These guys like to believe that they’re successful with women. Getting mediocre sex with girls that barely meet the mark for what they’d consider attractive at a rate that barely meets their needs to not be considered an incel. Complacency in this form fools our minds into thinking that we’re getting success, yet deep down leads to knowing you’re not achieving what you really want out of life.

How the hell does any of the above relate to online dating?

You load up your app, swipe right mindlessly, and check your phone for every ding, buzz, and beep that it makes. Your monkey brain is constantly spinning, and when you finally get a match you immediately invest yourself. This is your only chance right? Well hopefully she messages you back!

The cold hard truth is that dating apps have atrociously low rates of success for men. Even when you match, the odds of her messaging back are low. You are safeguarded and sheltered from this rejection. You don't get to witness it. You don't have to endure the awkwardness or face the fact that no matter what you say or do, no way in hell is this girl sleeping with you.

There is no direct impetus to improve.

Now to counter, this is greatly improved if you have a good profile. But we’re speaking in general terms, to the average guy who doesn’t really have it figured out. If you’re a guy slaying on the dating apps, you’re probably doing fine in person and don’t need this advice.

Dating apps are your source of passive pussy. They give into your brain’s dopamine reward center, like all forms of social media, entrancing you to spend more time mindlessly dawdling on the app with hopes of fucking that girl who turns out was only looking for another simp to add to her OF fanbase.

Let’s not despair, it’s not all depressing and online dating can be one of the best ways to consistently get laid. If you invest in your profile (namely improving your SMV then taking good photos, that’s literally it), you’ll reap the rewards. Add to it that you can avoid incessantly checking the app, exercising a degree of self-discipline that even Marcus Aurelius would nod at, then you’ll find yourself doing fine.

OLD is a great way to keep the momentum going. Busy grinding away at life? Big work project? Going on a trip abroad? Spending time with family over the holidays? This is where the internet saves you and if done correctly, can throw a dime or two into your lap on a consistent basis.

Takeaway

For the newbies out there who are elitists about doing cold approach, yet out of 1,000 approaches have only made out with a chick, or the guys who use tinder but can’t handle a girl telling them no – this is for you. For the rest of you, you get it.

There’s no point bickering over which is better. Your goal as a dude is to meet as many hot girls as possible, fuck them, and eventually if you so choose, settle down with one. Don’t get lost in the minutiae.