Why do I kill every conversation I enter?

IntrovertSigma · 2017-07-25T21:59:09+00:00

5 in the last 4 years!!!!

You need to talk to 5 per day.

Start giving your opinions and thoughts and communicate them with lots of details and emotions.

"So I went to the store today and I saw the biggest avocado. I really wanted to buy it but I didn't know what I could do with it. Should I try and eat it in one sitting or make some kind of salad with it? I really love making salads, you can basically just put whatever vegetables in them and eat as much as you want. Makes me feel good to eat healthy... bla bla bla bla"

TheFitnessEnigma · 2017-07-26T00:41:11+00:00

Well King_of_ass, I have felt the same way for many years when I was younger. I was always too much of a "nice guy" afraid to make assumptions or say what was on my mind due to fear of offending people. Because of this, I'd end up asking continuously boring questions trying to find something we had in common, and then continue to ask more questions. I started making more assumptions based on observations (e.g. accent, hobbies, career, academics, e.t.c) Women usually responded well and it hugely improved my game. The very few times I did accidentally offend someone, I casually apologized and moved on.

In short, don't be afraid to say what you have on your mind. Have confidence in your abilities to create a fun vibe in conversations. Away with that "Negative Aura" bullshit; it's self made and destructive.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-07-26T02:16:20+00:00

I try to thread the conversation and ask questions, and relate to the person.....

.... it always ends up with a one sided interview, with the other person looking away. People try to remove themselves from the interaction. They usually avoid me afterwards, even if they initiated it.

I think we can't proceed unless you just lay out exactly what you're doing here.

Can you lay out an example conversation, verbatim, if possible?

Because clearly something is going wrong that you're leaving the details out on.

What are you asking about?
How are they typically responding to those questions?
How is your kino escalation? Are you trying to push a lot of it?
Does this happen with girls and boys?

neversaydookie · 2017-07-26T06:39:51+00:00

Here are some things that will help grow you as a person. Start exploring things you hate. Let's say you hate country- go to the library and start learning everything about country music. Keep listening to country music until you stop hating it. There's a little trick that if you keep forcing it on yourself, eventually you will just start to like what you used to hate. Then start exploring a cuisine you hate. Does Thai food make you squeamish? Well, force yourself to eat every item on a thai menu and learn about the food and culture. You did not give a lot of info in your post, but I have and sometimes still feel the way you do. So I did a lot of travelling and forced myself to explore things that sometimes did not interest me. But each time you conquer a new subject, you're slowly adding bullets into your arsenal. Those bullets will give you confidence. You go to a bar and see a girl wearing a San Diego shirt, well... if you've learned something about San Diego, you can cut right into it with her. You will find that women are full of tells. They wear it on their shirts, on a tattoo... they are basically advertising an entry point for you to engage them in. On sites like this, they preach confidence, confidence, confidence.... but I don't think that plays out unless you've got experience and intelligence to back it up. Those are my suggestions. Get to work. Instead of moping and asking why isn't it working, just start building your arsenal. If you teach yourself a foreign language, you can start talking to a whole new universe of women. There are so many different things you can try.

Title	Why do I kill every conversation I enter?
Author	king_of_ass
Upvotes	8
Comments	13
Date	July 25, 2017 7:55 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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