Hey guys I only recently got into reddit and this sub and I noticed some posts about not being friends with a girl in order to seduce her. And I definitely agree with that shit 100%, but some of yall probably already have this girl you're interested in that your "good friends" with now but still wanna seduce. After falling into that pithole and getting out myself here's a few things I picked up that helped.

  1. Stop caring so much

If you give all your attention to this one girl then your always accessible to her. Ask yourself, is she really worth all your time and effort? Relax, talk to her whenever she wants to talk. Do not force yourself to engage her. Think of how you interact with your normal friends, you don't force yourself to talk to them, it just happens

  1. Find stuff to do (Keep yourself busy)

I'm not saying you should drown yourself in work (or school work for the college lads). If you aren't out there enjoying life you're just cheating yourself. If you're out there getting into things you don't like that she's interested in the hopes that it'll pique her interests then just stop. 90% of the good posts on r/seduction talk about being guys bettering themselves by just being busier and focusing on them. If she'll notice if you got your own life going on and I'd you don't pander to her anymore. For me, I was enlisted into national service for my country so this was literally handed to me. I couldn't talk to her anymore and honestly I didn't care, I had too much shit to think about.

  1. Keep your options open

Don't do it to seduce the girl. Do it for you. Hey you might find a girl that you like that's... Different. Especially if you're looking to lose your virginity. Ask yourself does it really have to be with that one girl? You're literally making odds worse for yourself, putting all that focus into one girl doesn't mean you'll get a better at sex. By doing this you're shifting focus away from 1 girl to many and you won't be super accessible to the girl anymore and she'll notice.

  1. Be direct, do not be timid

If you're gonna flirt with her let her know you mean it, do not fucking cop out by saying shit like "oh just kidding" or "haha ofc not". Don't go overboard on the flirting, and when I say flirting I don't mean putting her on a pedestal. You're her friend right? So you probably know a bit about her, tease her occasionally, use things only between the two of you to make it more intimate/special, these types of things. Don't cop out the moment you she confronts you or the flirting goes wrong. If she asks you honestly if you mean it or you're joking around, please tell her the truth.. If she turns down your advances it's fine, a door is never really fully shut and remember there are other people out there.

I know that this post was pretty vague at times and it wasn't techniques on how to seduce someone. I just thought after posts of people tryna seduce girls by being friends with them first there might be some people out there who have this problem and could use some help. As for seduction in general, use the top posts in this thread! They have been very helpful and a big part in stepping my game up!

Thanks guys