Thought I finally got a date, but she won't even see my messages...

swissarm · 2017-09-03T12:34:26+00:00

Get used to it man. This happens all the time. It's called flaking. The more you message her the more needy and unattractive you will become in her eyes. It can be frustrating but don't think that since a broad said 'yes' means she will follow through. Give her one more chance. Play it cool. If she cancels, doesnt text back, etc. move on.

2017-09-03T14:13:14+00:00

This is what you are going to get 75% of the time. Don't send any more, and act normal (not angry) when you see her.

She either gets back to you now or she doesn't. You can't do much else.

Captain__Backfire · 2017-09-03T15:24:05+00:00

A lot of girls like to test how needy you are by doing stuff like this. After you asked her out, she probably had some mild reservations because she didn't fully know you (this is extremely common and normal, she could be going out with someone who collects cryptotaxidermy for all she knows).

I'm sure she expected to receive a message from you, and she might even be waiting to see how you react to her not responding right away, to see if you send her a flurry of messages. I would just move on with your life, keep talking to other girls - if she sees that you're flourishing she'll be much more likely to return your call.

kristallnachte · 2017-09-03T13:08:12+00:00

First off, nobody calls nowadays.

You should have shot off 1 message and then waited. Not call and multiple messages.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2017-09-03T15:20:44+00:00

abundance. have shit going on in your life that this shouldn't phase you. this girl is not thinking about a date with you over the weekend. therefore, you shouldn't be thinking about it either, do other fun shit

SpinPlates · 2017-09-03T16:05:08+00:00

Welcome to modern dating. Social media and instant communication through texting has made people change their plans on a last second notice.

Ragnrok · 2017-09-03T16:50:54+00:00

About half the time you ask a girl out and she says "yes" she actually means "lol no". Just gotta accept it and play the numbers game.

johannthegoatman · 2017-09-03T17:41:56+00:00

If you play it super cool and don't be weird/angry about this it's your only chance to get with her in the future. Even if she has changed her mind fully it will make you look good to other girls.

Here's what happened - she changed her mind and didn't want to talk to you about it. Women do this shit all the time. I'm not going to get into whether it's fair because it doesn't even matter. It's going to happen.

If you play it cool and respect/understand that decision, it takes a lot of pressure off of her. The vibe changes from "this guy wants something from me" to "this guy is relaxed and wants to hang out but doesn't care that I changed my mind. He's not expecting anything from me and I can just be myself." Women hate romantic/sexual pressure.

Or she dropped her phone in the toilet. Either way let it go.

Title	Thought I finally got a date, but she won't even see my messages...
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	11
Comments	20
Date	September 3, 2017 11:38 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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