How to relearn kino and stop overthinking it?

_GaiusMarius_ · 2017-09-30T15:54:33+00:00

Relax and be casual about your meeting.

Date is an unsubstantial, socially constructed term that you put psychic boundaries on yourself with by complying to its non-existent, thus self-created conditions.

You two are meeting each other to further approach common interests and affirm sexual compatibility.

Greet her with a kiss on the cheek/s. From personal experience, girls have a crush on you when they initiate the greeting with a hug.

Talk about whatever comes into your mind.

Keep quiet and enjoy the moment when you've asked all you were interested in. Her joining the silence is a typical situation for mutual kino.

For two talkative persons, kino will be introduced simultaneously with contextual topics.

Take whatever place looks most comfortable to you, regardless of your distance to each other.

Had a girl leaning ten times over a table for a kiss, head resting on her hands, eyes closed, lips puckered.

If further escalation is hindered inside, go for a walk later.

skiptreeee · 2017-09-30T18:16:21+00:00

6 or 7 hour date wtf?

DavidGolani11 · 2017-09-30T22:42:32+00:00

Stop thinking about it altogether. Structured pickup makes you a robot.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-10-01T03:12:39+00:00

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I used to be decent at kino and it was common for me to get a kiss 2-3 hours into a 6-7 hour date.

Note: It's not so helpful to compare yourself to the past. For one thing, every girl is the not the same. Some won't go for escalation that's fast, and others will.

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they really didn't talk much about when to escalate other than we she responds to other escalations

But this is really all you need to know. The basic idea here is: PAY ATTENTION. She will pretty much show you how she wants it, if you are paying attention. It's not about having a checklist of times when you go. It's about realize that feedback any girl gives could provide a doorway at any time.

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and I have trouble getting it started in the first place.

Easy things that people overlook, which give you information about her openness to escalation with you.

Testing her space bubble. Edging into her personal space and seeing if she makes the adjustment to get her space back. Does she move her leg away from yours to maintain distance. And so on.
Safe, non-sexual touches that you could engage in with anyone, even guys. Arm jabs, shoulder, outside of the arm stuff, high fives, etc. Any sort of contact (or expectation of contact like when you put your hand up for a high five) will force a reaction from her as to how much she likes contact with you.
Her reaction to incidental or accidental contact. You can't plan this one, but sometimes you'll bump up against her or something, and her reaction might tell you something.

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A few women I went out with recently the dates didn't go well, and to some extent they just weren't what I was looking for, but I did notice I was afraid and overthinking kino and didn't even try.

If they weren't what you were looking for, then that's going to fuck with your whole approach and possibly make it feel off. So why would you game girls who aren't what you're looking for anyway? This sounds almost like you were just trying to override your own instincts so you can get some "practice" in or just to get a hit.

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This girl I have a date with, I think I just need to escalate almost right away given how much rapport we have. If I don't my behavior won't be congruent, right?

You're overthinking this whole "congruency" thing. You aren't on some timer. Just because you have "rapport," doesn't mean you need to escalate almost right away. That fails to take HER state into account. If you escalate just because you think you should, you'll have a bad time.

Title	How to relearn kino and stop overthinking it?
Author	RytekBJJ
Upvotes	15
Comments	9
Date	September 30, 2017 2:45 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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