The 8 Commandments Of Self Confidence

StinkyPeterson · 2017-10-24T07:37:19+00:00

It's a good video and I recommend that you guys watch it, but:

1. Don't treat yourself worse than others

Don't beat yourself up when things go wrong; show yourself the same love that'd you'd show other people

2. Enjoy the process

The journey is the coolest part on the way to improvement, not just the goal
If you're taking action towards your dreams or goals, respect yourself along the way

3. Acceptance

No-one is perfect; accept your flaws, don't beat yourself up
The more things that bother you that you can accept, the more love and self-respect you will have

4. Gratitude

Be grateful for what you already have, and things you have already accomplished
Write these things down, sit and reflect on it

5. Reflection

Think about how far you've come, compared to where you used to be

6. Comparison to inspiration

Don't compare yourself to others; don't be jealous
Change comparison to inspiration
It's better to be inspired by someone, than compare yourself to them negatively
When viewing social media, people put their best foot forward; they hide their flaws. We compare ourselves to them/the best versions of themselves, which is toxic
Everybody has a bad day, and is human

7. Self-worth vs. other worth

Self-worth: what you think of yourself
Other worth: basing your worth on what someone else thinks of you
What do my family think of me? What do I think of me? Vs. what strangers think of me
You can't hold the opinions of someone you don't value very high
Whenever you have an interaction with a stranger that challenges your worth, reset by speaking with family or friends - what do these people think of you?

8. Put yourself first

When you're busy pleasing others, you're not focused on your own happiness; you're never going to make everybody happy
Never give the job of making yourself happy to someone else
The relationship you have with yourself is the most important
Stay true to yourself first

You can use these tools as the basis of how you feel about yourself.

the__chosen1 · 2017-10-24T03:52:44+00:00

tldw?

MelcomDark · 2017-10-23T23:48:22+00:00

I'm writing these down and putting them on my wall. Thank you Joe :)

CmonGuys · 2017-10-24T01:21:59+00:00

Loving your videos man, keep it going!

ktorr1546 · 2017-10-24T19:07:47+00:00

Hey Joe, I'm a new subscriber to your channel and I love the videos. Please keep them coming!

ethical_pa · 2017-10-24T23:15:12+00:00

Thanks for the pep talk Joe. I needed that today.

BestOfPUA · 2017-10-25T00:41:47+00:00

commenting here, so i can watch later

Life_Uncivilized · 2017-10-24T16:29:56+00:00

These are all good, but in my own experience confidence is almost entirely based on proving to yourself you can face you fears. Be that fear of failure, fear of approaching, fear of confrontation - the more you confront those basic fears, the more your confidence grows overall.

Most of the tips listed here are simply good for mental health, but don’t really directly tie to functional self confidence.

startsmall_getbig · 2017-10-24T22:24:55+00:00

My biggest problem is, I think, is not having someone with me with equal desire.

If you live in Boston and desire to hang out with awesome women who are here, message me.

Enuff is enuff and must do something game changer before the winter hits!

Title	The 8 Commandments Of Self Confidence
Author	JoeDucard
Upvotes	266
Comments	26
Date	October 23, 2017 11:42 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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