Having trouble connecting with others

ImJustSo · 2017-11-01T19:35:11+00:00

Step one: Always consider that a conversation takes two people. You don't want to only let them speak(passively waiting for them to move the conversation along), but also give them opportunities to speak (actively asking questions or giving their curiosity a chance to question you).

Step two: Since it's a two way street, try to realize every opportunity that your conversation partner has given you (pay attention to every word, you can spin any topic a hundred different ways if they pass the ball).

Step three: Have a goal in mind (e.g. Find the restroom, get a date for next week's wedding, get a phone number, see her smile, make her laugh, turn her on). You don't state your goal, you think about your goal and your mind gives you words that lead you to your goal throughout the conversation. When you're trying to think of something to say, you're at a loss, because you have no fucking direction and you think you won't get anywhere! Well, that's exactly right. If you walk with a goal, you'll end up at your goal. If you walk aimlessly, you'll be moving, but not towards anything.

Step four: Have fun. Be positive. Smile. Enjoy the person! Seriously, try to want to be in every conversation. Try to find fun shit about this person. Become curious! Think! Be inquisitive and sharp! People eat the shit up. If a girl did this to you, you'd be masturbating to thoughts of her all week.

NunoHimself · 2017-11-01T21:34:25+00:00

Just keep moving the conversation. From topic to topic. You don't need depth. It's all about the vibe. If they feel comfortable and trust you, they'll go for depth if they want to. You're not getting a connection or whatever because you're in your head and trying to make it work, not because of what you're saying.

DirkDieGurke · 2017-11-01T21:39:00+00:00

My favorite exploratory question is: What is something you can tell me about you that you don't normally tell other people?

It's great. After that you can move on to having her answer a question or make a confession. Confessions are great, girls will tell you some weird things. Usually sexual if you imply that they tell you a secret.

Title	Having trouble connecting with others
Author	Throwaway3224224
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	November 1, 2017 5:02 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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