Always trying to impress, end up not saying anything

SnapSocialGuru · 2017-11-11T05:52:55+00:00

My Snapchat audience and I just put this together. It might be useful to you.

A lot of times, being more social isn't about better tactics.

It's as simple as changing your mindset and psychology.

Hope this helps!

modernsavage · 2017-11-10T19:08:19+00:00

But I just keep wondering what to say, trying to plan out the conversion like I'm playing chess or some shit.

That's the problem, you're overthinking, you just need to blurt something out and accept that it might be awkward, which is ok, just own it. Start with simply saying things like: 'hello', 'hi', 'good morning', 'good afternoon', 'good evening', 'how's it going', etc... then start working on basic small talk, everyday stuff, this doesn't have to be difficult at all, just talk to people like you talk to your friends.

dem_gainzz · 2017-11-12T03:47:05+00:00

It means you think what you have to say doesn't have inherent value. I don't have the solution yet, I'm working on this issue myself. I think part of the puzzle though is learning to "be" rather than "do". Meditation helps with this. Stay focused but relaxed in the moment. Doing this every day over the course of a few months will change you, slowly. Stay in the present, no distractions. Spontaneous crying isn't uncommon, it happens after we've hid from ourselves for so long. In addition to that, a good therapist can help you build the belief that what you say has value.

Niklaus_Mikaelson · 2017-11-10T19:08:33+00:00

Have a few drinks and loosen up

Title	Always trying to impress, end up not saying anything
Author	SomeDay342
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	November 10, 2017 4:17 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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