Are any of you from Toronto and willing to help a brutha out? At this point Im willing to PAY.,..

shickey56 · 2017-12-01T19:20:10+00:00

If you see yourself as ugly so will females

JuliusJustice · 2017-12-01T19:30:45+00:00

I'm from Toronto. Pm me.

Convictional · 2017-12-01T19:59:48+00:00

I see you posting a lot around here complaining about your looks so I'm going to drop some hard truth on you in the hopes that it helps you.

You're not ugly (I've seen your other posts) but your confidence is shit and you're more than likely projecting that out to everyone you talk to. You need to fuck right off with that attitude.

It's not about meeting people or being attractive. Stop thinking about everything as success or failure.

You need to stop whatever bad habits you have developed and work on your inner game. Your happiness and confidence are the two most important factors when attracting women.

Happiness comes from fulfilling parts of your own life without depending on the validation of anyone (including this sub). You need to pick up hobbies that you enjoy for the sake of enjoying them. Forget about women or making excuses. Make yourself happy first and stop focusing on winning the game. Create positive habits, strong work ethic, discipline, and composure. This includes working hard for your own satisfaction, avoiding anything that could derail any stability you have, and the ability to operate autonomously on any level. This puts you in a position to do anything you want without stressing about the results. This is outcome independence and something you sorely need.

The other part is confidence. Being happy can make you more confident and more confidence makes you happier.

But confidence is partially built by your mental state and health. Don't feel like you look good? Find ways to groom better, exercise more, and ask others for opinions on what you can improve. Being confident means you can accept fair criticism and incorporate that into your life so that you're always improving. This is called Kaizen. Be better tomorrow than you were today. Think about your mistakes as learning opportunities. If you feel good about what you're doing to improve, you'll immediately look better to others because you'll walk with confidence and smile more. Mental health is important too, so make sure you take that into consideration (talk to a doctor, schedule time with a therapist to keep your sanity in check). I'm not saying you are mentally ill, I'm just making sure that if you're depressed or anxious you take steps to work on those.

So what now?

Well being happy and confident tie into being okay with disappointment and striving for improvement. It means taking chances because you feel good about having tried even if you don't succeed. Lastly it means being honest with people and not trying to hide your insecurities (which you're probably doing a lot of) but ackowledging them.

You need a perspective change. Attracting women isn't about bullshit like looks or winning or losing. It's about building up everything you have and always looking to make it better, and then extending that to the people around you, including women.

Don't be needy, don't project insecurities onto others, don't sweat the small stuff, get familiar with rejection and failure, and be outcome independent.

Tl;dr forget women, go out and make your own life better first, then when you feel good without having or needing women in your life, go out and meet them

2017-12-01T20:58:54+00:00

I'm average and girls from time to time give eye contact

2017-12-01T20:30:42+00:00

According to all the expert replies so far, you are basically the only ugly guy in this reddit.

leddpipe · 2017-12-01T19:29:18+00:00

Dont pay buddy, theres an easy albeit currently unidentified variable factor here.its not your appearance otherwise this shit wouldnt work.surely there are people interested even in just socialising you could link up with.say more about your situation amd appoach

tony18215 · 2017-12-01T21:55:25+00:00

I would help you,but im in la... Im great with girls and was like you a few years ago. I just thought what is different between me and the cool guys.So i just got a better wardrobe,a fuck boy haircut,started to check out girls in front of them,became charming,and started to going out a lot more so id get more chances to meet girls

ReddLemon · 2017-12-01T22:54:31+00:00

Girls have their guard up at those places. Have you ever had women friends? Sisters? Comfort is number one. If you want to meet women go to events that are guaranteed to have more women then men: yoga, cooking, dancing... I mean they are stereotypes for a reason. Then, you go every week until the people who are regulars trust you. You kind of set an unrealistic goal for yourself. You will find that once you are more than a stranger women will be more receptive. I think you have the right idea about just trying to have convos but you need practice outside the dating sphere before tackling bars and clubs. I see girls attracted to me wayyy more in daily life then at bars and clubs, because they know they can't show attraction to every guy or face creepiness.

Tldr: Go out of your comfort zone and into feminine spaces. Get comfortable handling groups of women in non dating spaces.

Title	Are any of you from Toronto and willing to help a brutha out? At this point Im willing to PAY.,..
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Date	December 1, 2017 7:08 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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