You're supposed to not filter yourself when you talk, but you end up saying stupid shit that turns people off.

Yass_King · 2017-12-07T19:07:18+00:00

Who says you're not supposed to filter yourself when you talk? Unless you're naturally reticent, restraint in conversation is an often-overlooked virtue.

What I recommend is, any time you sense yourself about to say something awkward or stupid, pause for a minute and make subtly flirtatious eye contact with the girl. She'll most likely either say more herself or, better, return your intentful gaze. Either way, problem solved.

ThrowawayPUA · 2017-12-07T21:12:09+00:00

I suggest you filter yourself when you talk so you don't say stupid shit that turns people off.

nonsass · 2017-12-07T23:13:46+00:00

This is a result of the modern popular pickup philosophy of 'what you say doesn't matter', and if you are running out of things to say 'Don't filter what you say and lower the bar' etc which is when you get guys going quiet in a conversation with a girl and then blurting out ''Pink elephants! I like salad. What's your favourite mushroom?!!''

It's kind of good advice in a way, but as you have learnt, it's not all skittles and champagne!

I guess a proper solution for 'running out of things to say' is yet to be discovered, lol

Lambdal7 · 2017-12-08T11:35:16+00:00

That is stupid advice.

It is meant to say that you shouldn't be afraid of stating your opinion or calling girls out. But that still means filtering 80% of the things you think. The more the girl likes you, the less you need to filter also and the more she will like your honest opinion.

alexdanero · 2017-12-08T14:19:29+00:00

Same I swear like the girl will be in to me then I put no filter on and a bunch of what's on my mind a stupid shit comes out and not only is she turned off but then nobody wants to talk to me but if I am quite then nothing happens how am I supposed to pick her up.

jacobj404 · 2017-12-10T18:03:42+00:00

that advice is only really until you get comfortable being unfiltered. then you chose the filters you want

Title	You're supposed to not filter yourself when you talk, but you end up saying stupid shit that turns people off.
Author	mindmonkey00
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	December 7, 2017 6:59 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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