I don't know whats wrong with me

TheNightIsCalling · 2017-12-08T08:42:13+00:00

You gotta believe in yourself. If you don't believe in yourself, it will show to women. Whether you do it subconsciously or not, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You think something is wrong with you, and that it needs fixing. By thinking this, you are effectively making it true even if nothing is wrong. It's OK to feel emotions, you're a human being. Stay away from the alpha-beta bullshit, it's toxic to your mind. If you have self respect, confidence, and have clear personal boundaries (don't be a doormat and don't take bullshit), then you are an alpha. It's a bit counter-intuitive, but thinking of yourself as alpha vs beta is a beta trait. A real alpha will not give a fuck about what people think. Just be the best version of yourself that you can be, and if you fail try again. That's why we feel guilty about things, or cringe at the past. It's how we learn not repeat the same mistakes.

You know that voice that tells you you're not confident? It's doing that out of fear of failure and pain, it's trying to protect you and keep you in your comfort zone. No one can reject you if you reject yourself first, right? Similar to the "you can't fire me, I quit" sort of thing. Be aware of this while it's happening, recognize it, and move on. Live fully in the present moment, as more often than not fear comes from trying to predict the future. I highly highly recommend meditation in addition to your fitness regiment. It will ground you to reality, and take you out of your head.

If you fully internalize these things, and Meditate, it will go away. However if it truly doesn't and you've tried everything, go to a therapist/psychiatrist and talk to them about it. A lot of these things you speak of show signs of depression, in which case they will be able to help you manage it.

Visualize_ · 2017-12-08T07:11:55+00:00

I find this pretty interesting because for a sport like boxing, I would figure you have a better sense of self than your average person. You have to be confident in your own skill at boxing and you don't actually need someone to tell you your good because you know it. Your problem seems to be self perception and I don't really know how to fix it because I'm having trouble myself, but I think the best place to start is changing your mentality. If you keep thinking the same way you won't ever change. I read a post from here about this short affirmation this guy reads to himself every morning which I think is pretty interesting. But maybe you should reflect on why specifically you don't think of yourself as "the shit" when others have that perception of you. Maybe you just don't give credit to yourself.

With the whole stuck on one girl thing. If something doesn't work out with a girl, then distract yourself with another girl. However ultimately if you realize that not everyone will like you and that's out of your control you will just get over girls quicker. It's not your loss, it's hers

niteshadow53 · 2017-12-09T16:26:00+00:00

I think that being able to walk away from any relationship at any time is extremely important, whether it be just friends, or more than that. Getting this idea in your head that you “need” this girl is counterproductive and will cause you to act in ways that are more needy and clingy because you are scared of losing her.

That is not to say that you can’t invest yourself in other people or try to make meaningful and lasting connections! However, when it comes down to it, sometimes it just doesn’t work out and you need to be able to let go without making her feel guilty about rejecting you. She will appreciate that, and it will make you better prepared for future situations.

The best way to do this is to have close friends to vent to or go do things with. Distract yourself. Invest in hobbies. Don’t make your entire life about just the girl. If you get rejected, so what. There are so many other people out there that it’s not worth it to get hung up on any one person!

Title	I don't know whats wrong with me
Author	Gazela1997
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	December 8, 2017 6:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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