Pussied out and fucked up...how do I recover?

grubapanda · 2018-05-25T07:18:42+00:00

She initiates contact = huge indicator of interest Just stay calm because the situation is very good: -she still initiated the next date even if you didn’t kiss her -she told you about that you didn’t kiss her so she is clearly into you and she wants more

What do you have to do next?

More physical contact. Between saying hi and kiss there is a huge gap. You have to make a bridge to get from one side to another (from hi to kiss) and what’s your bridge construction elements? Physical escalation. So focus on touching her more and more intimate, tease her and you will see that kiss it’s just another step further instead of a big thing.

pre_internet · 2018-05-25T16:31:55+00:00

If you think you fucked up just remember that you’re under no obligation to be the person you were five minutes ago.

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-05-25T07:11:17+00:00

Did she rest her head on your shoulder? Did you hold hands?

Just because you were in close proximity doesn't mean she was wanting something. You could very well be deep in the friend zone and not know it.

Don't text her, that kind of statement is just admitting weakness to her face.

2018-05-25T09:23:33+00:00

St the movie don't wait until the end of the date, when you see her get her in the car, lean in and kiss her. That'll earn you some points back.

dropsoe · 2018-05-25T16:51:57+00:00

I've been in the same situation as you buddy. The best advice I can give you is be confident and in this instance I wouldn't wait till the end of the date because the longer you wait the harder it will be. Based on what your saying your in there, you just need to turn into the alpha male compliment her when you meet her and give her a small kiss on the lips and see how she reacts. If she's into you then your date will go 10x better, if she's not into you then that's ok enjoy the time together and use it as a learning experience

2018-05-25T15:17:14+00:00

Get in touch with the part of you that wants her sucking your balls

Generally speaking there are no second chances, take your lesson and move forward

LimitedContributor · 2018-05-25T14:08:30+00:00

I agree with grubapanda. Your way still good. If she didn't text you continually afterward, then it would be different.

Aethlingo · 2018-05-25T16:41:43+00:00

I'd relax and don't beat yourself up about it. She obviously likes you. I've failed to go for the kiss many times (when I was younger - haha), but it still worked out because I was playing the long game (like you are). Definitely escalate physical contact so the first kiss is not such a big step (and to make sure you're not misreading cues). Flirt, tease, talk about sexual things and see if her eyes light up. One idea is to engineer your evening together so you're slow-dancing together at some point. It's easy to tell if she's in to you by the way she touches you, and it's romantic and a good time to go for the first kiss.

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2018-05-25T17:55:04+00:00

I can help you bro. But you gotta listen to me... OK?

next time you see her, you immediately give her a hug. Not the kind you give your granny, a full body, pull her close like you want her , hug. A hug helps break the physical barrier, its best to start the date with one. Plus no one ever turns down a hug. (this is also an opportunity to tell her that you like the smell of her hair)

You need to flirt and escalate more. This is why you were uncomfortable with kissing her. You need to innocently touch her when you can. You can do this pretty easily:

When you sit, you sit next to her and touch her leg with your leg, touch her foot with your foot.
When you get up, you hold out your hand, and don't let go. Boom, you are now holding hands.
When walking, you walk arm-in-arm.
When entering a room, you but your hand on her lower back and lead her in.
When talking and laughing, you touch her arm and hand.

You "innocently" do all of these things to escalate and break the physical barrier, this gets her used to the idea of touching you and being close to you.

Now, you watch her reaction to your action. Does she smile when you tease and flirt with her? Does she pull away from your touches, or does she make it easy to touch her? Does she touch you back? He reaction to your action will tell you how she feels about it.

Later, when walking, hold her hand, and lead her up on a step. Stop, spin her around so she is now face to face with you. Slide your other hand on her hip\waist. Smile and look deep into her eyes for 3 seconds. Look down at her lips, then back to her eyes.

If, after 3 seconds of being in your arms, and staring into your eyes, if she didn't pull away, go for the kiss.

Its really that easy. You can do this, its so easy...

MarTweFah · 2018-05-25T18:12:26+00:00

The more you over think it, the harder its going to be..

They can read body language and pick up on shit we think we're good at hiding very well. You know her well enough at this stage to be you and just be a bit more honest with her (not to the levels you're think of though).

2018-05-26T01:14:44+00:00

I say yolo just text her "I should have kissed you last night". It will put it out there. If she is into you, she will find it cute, if not then youll know shes not into you. This has worked for me in the past, and only in the good outcome. It will make it awkward the next time you see her but its gonna be awkward no matter what

markcubelon · 2018-05-26T17:41:49+00:00

Just text her sth like: wanna come over talking bout " topic of your college course" She will say yes. Have fun

Title	Pussied out and fucked up...how do I recover?
Author	betterforgirls
Upvotes	11
Comments	22
Date	May 25, 2018 7:04 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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