What to do when you're at a loss of words

2018-06-22T02:24:13+00:00

I find that there are two types of conversations: 1. You’re trying to construct each word you’re trying to say - this takes a lot of effort. 2. You have a flow. It’s like you’re talking with family and friends - this is easy and takes almost no effort. There has been work done that measures how you’re body responds when you start conversations / someone starts one with you. Initially, you almost have always think of the words that you are saying. It is somewhat constructed. However, if your’e comfortable you make it to the flow-like state and you’re able to keep talking. Otherwise, you have to think of each word and it becomes like what you were describing.

You’re goal has to be to get into that flow state, like it sounds like you have during day game. You’re just going to have to keep trying to find some things to talk about and maybe even just pointing out random things / using some canned lines until you can reach that state. Once you keep doing this, you’ll become more comfortable getting into that “flow state.”

judahman8 · 2018-06-22T03:49:34+00:00

Keep in mind that people go out to have fun not to have a regular conversation with a complete stranger. No one wants to waste 2 hours of their short night out locked in conversation with a stranger. Do you really even want to do that? Is that really fun for you? Of course not, so why would a girl want that. I like to converse with my good friends because we have a lot in common and we know each other well.

You need to change up what you are trying to accomplish. You should be trying to have fun. Playing games is gun, touchimg girls and making out with them is fun, telling relevant and exciting stories about things is fun, dancing is fun and flirting is fun. Conversations should pop up naturally within the fun being had. Don't think about what you are saying, think about what you are doing. If you don't know what you are doing next then you aren't gaming her, you are just talking about random shit leading nowhere.

Ok so if I'm trying to pull a girl for sure be because I'm like showing off or something and I can't afford to just wing it or risk getting blown out because I was just talking all this shit about how I bet I can pull the first 8 or above that I talk to off rip lol this is what I would do.

My brain says I need to open. I walk up and say "hey I have to get back to my friends in a second (false time constraint)we've been arguing about this all night maybe you can help settle things (my toes are pointed away from them and it seems like Im going to walk away any moment) do you think its cheating if your girlfriend kisses another girl?"

We talk and share honest opinions and I constantly seem like I'm about to walk away. I high five any girls that I agree with to start kino. Now my brain says hey bro you need to hook this set, time to do something that will catch their interes.

"Hey are you guys best friends ir something because I notice you make the same facial expressions.... oh yeah well have you done the best friends test... ok real quick (do the best friends test, google it)" they are hehe and haha and I have successfully hooked the set. Im like "awww thats sweet or it doesnt matter group hug." I want to touch girls as much as possible. Everygirl around me will see me hug these hot girls.

Well what happens when they turn down your group hug bro? My brain says did this bitch just dlv me? Ok bet, I'll respond to any dlv with a dlv of my own. I laugh and say something like "oh dang prude much? Or maybe I'm just a little too touchy feely, when I lived in South Florida all the girls introduce themselves with kiss on the cheek and now Im here and people freak out about a hug. It's a shame because I love hugs. Where's this place that you guys are from where they hate hugs lol" teasingly and I even give them a little nudge to show that I'm still not afraid to touch you.

Oops I got off track lol my bad... anyways my brain is like lets do something else entertaining for me. Now I have to calibrate, is there games I can play with them nearby? Are we next to the dance floor? Do I want to bet them a drink on something? Are we just chilling stationery where we can talk?

What to do what to do, my brain says. Actions not words. If talking is the best option then I'll make it a game. "Let's play the question game real quick here are the rules" look up the question game, you can play that shit all night but break it up by getting drinks, going to dance and bouncing locations.

There is so much to do. Boyfriend girlfriend role play. Fake read her palm. A cute girl is walking by you stop her and say one of the girls said they think she's really cute but they were too shy to tell her. Tell them you will be right back because this girl just gave you the fuck me eyes and you need to defend your fake girlfriends honour by letting her know she needs to stop undressing you with her eyes. Go over and open a set right in front of them.

There is so much fun to be had. Even if you fail at pulling a girl you should be having such a good time that it doesn't matter. Anyways I hope this helps. Just remember to think about what to do before you go out, not about to say. Its ok to have a scripted opener and or hook but after that kist play and be in the moment.

But you still need to know what you are trying to accomplish every step of the way. I mean I know exactly how Im going to get the home from open to full close but I don't know what I'm going to say or do. I just know what needs to be done overall.

Its like football, you have a game plan but you don't know how the game is going to play out or what plays you will have to call. But you still have a playbook with all of your plays and an overall game plan before the game. Who have a vision of how the game is suppose to play out.

Well I hoped this was helpful because I wasted a lot of time writing it lol

Lambdal7 · 2018-06-22T10:12:55+00:00

Club game is very different to day game. It's the opposite.

Day game you are low energy, laid back, lighthearted.

Club game, you are high energy, cocky, funny, agressive.

hunterpua · 2018-06-22T20:20:50+00:00

Look at her and smile. There's two people in a conversation so if it gets awkward the other person feels it too. So put the pressure on the girl to break the awkward silence.

I actually like to start dates with an awkward silence. I just love watching girls struggle to come up with things to say while getting a little self-conscious. Its cute.

Title	What to do when you're at a loss of words
Author	setsuna0
Upvotes	9
Comments	10
Date	June 22, 2018 12:03 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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