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[–]provaro 9 points10 points11 points 8 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
100% lay off in a situation like this. If you keep at it, you’re going to be deferring to her, which you do not want to do. You said you slept at her place. She knows what your intention was. This should be something that happens spontaneously and does not require a lot of negotiation. If you keep “trying,” what is the message that you’re sending? That you need her and you can’t get options elsewhere. Do yourself a favor, do some self improvement, learn about yourself, and she’ll be back. And if not, you’ll be a better person.
[–]twizzleeace 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Edit we have kissed and fooled around a little
[–]lookingforapttolive 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And that's after sleeping at her house three times? Either she's playing hard to get, maybe giving herself more value, or you're not making any moves at all. Is she scared of sex? Religious?
[–]provaro 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If it was meant to be, you would have known and it would have happened. You’ll have to make your own judgment whether it’s worth putting more effort in. Probably better to take some time away before you do. See my other comment.
[–]twizzleeace 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Noted. Thanks
[–]judahman8 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Usually the problem in these situations is that the guy isn't actually making a move. If you are sleeping in the same bed with her and not having sex then that's usually a dead giveaway that you arn't making enough sexual advances twards her.
A girl will not sleep in the same bed with you while you are actively trying to have sex with her. Make her kick you out of the bed. She should be having sex with you or kicking you out of the bed. If you aren't being kicked out of bed then you probably arn't making a move.
Escalate until she says stop. Then back up a little bit and then escalate until she says stop again. Then get off of her completely but don't seem upset and just don't pay her any attention. Then when she comes for attention you go back to escalating, if she says stop again then build sexal tension by saying you can't help it and you don't think you can be around her and not want to have sex with her. Say you will do your best to keep it under control but you find her intoxicating. Then escalate again and repeat all nighg until she gives in or you give up and leave. Don't sleep in the same bed not getting laid. That is so Beta it's not even funny.
[–]twizzleeace 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is basically what has been happening.
[–]ReighIB 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is your goal to just sleep with her?
If she's just playing games, I would see it as a waste of time.
Imagine this scenario: There's a girl who has oneitis towards you and wants to sleep with you. You know she has oneitis towards you and wants to sleep with you. Would you go straight to sex even knowing that sex is going to eventually happen? Or knowing that sex is going to happened no matter what, would you do something else before actually having sex, knowing that this person is crazy about you?
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