Someone just asked me, "how do I flirt and physically escalate?"

To which I responded;

Honestly, that's the question. There is no be all end all to flirting, only some basic few rules. As far as flirting with words, the point is to tell her you like her, but you have to do it ARTFULLY. Just being bland about it and being like "I like you, youre pretty, I want to kiss you" is going to kill the emotion behind the flirt, which is what you need if you're going to successfully make a move. Some people like to hint that theyre flirting, of which the point is to get her to obsess over wondering if you are flirting or not, which makes her want to know and get into you. Personally, I like to flirt boldly with raw primal sexuality, although to do such a thing artfully is very tricky and I can't always do it myself. I will give you some examples, but you won't get the complete picture of why these things I said worked, because you will not know my vocal tonality or body language when I said it. Once I was talking about dancing with a girl, and I said "you know, we don't have to go dancing... for me to put the moves on you." The second part of this was stated with previously mentioned primal sexuality, and it got the girl laughing and flustered, which is what you want. Another time, I was at work, and a girl I was into came to where I was working to do something and said "Sorry, I gotta get in the way for a sec." and I responded "Oh, that's ok, you can get in my way... any time." Being primally sexual through the whole sentence. She was so overwhelmed with the message of my flirt, she could barely form a sentence to respond. After a long and sexually charged moment of looking into each others eyes, stumbling on some words she eventually asked me something that came out to little more than what sounded like an "eep" and I knew I had her.

Physically escalating is an art as well. Sometimes you only want to try after some good verbal flirting. Sometimes you want to try suddenly, out of the blue. Whatever the case, especially for when you start out, the best way to come about it is carefully, gradually and incrementally. If I was at the movies with a chick, I would start by running the back of my finger on the outside of her leg. I would do that for a minute, and see how she is responding. If she is not pushing away from it somehow after a minute, I would then go to running my fingers over the top of her leg. Same thing, go for a minute, see how she's reacting. If she is not opposed to it, start rubbing the inside of her leg. Same thing, if she is not opposed to it, at that point you just might be able to get your hand in her pants and start fingering her. Now that's kind of intense huh? It is, and you gotta understand, at any point if shes not into it you gotta back off. Don't be mad about it, it's good flirting, and maybe it's just too much for the situation for her. It's ok, because later, after the movie or dinner or whatever, she will have that event in her head, she will be thinking sexually, and if you get her alone you can try escalating again and she will most likely be more compliant.