What works better? Aggressiveness or Playing it Cool?

magnuscarta31 · 2018-07-08T12:55:34+00:00

If you are doing a series of tricks to make her come to you then you are completely outcome focused and not genuinely confident. Even though she may come to you, you are essentially doing a performance and a truly high status woman will detect it. Also, it isn't good for you, it doesn't build your higher self. If you like a woman approach her and let her no with no fear of rejection. Show her that you desire her and if you are well enough calibrated, if you have done enough work on yourself first, then your true confidence will shine through and she will value you and your emotional vulnerability. Anything else is ultimately a low value parlour trick - maybe ok to start the journey with but definitely not the ideal destination.

Buullred · 2018-07-08T23:28:46+00:00

I go aggressive as fuck. It's mostly due to the fact that chances are really high that an other more handsome guy could come to pick her up just to leave the outcome completely out of my control. You can probably play it more cool than me if you're actually attractive thought but I can't speak for that. The reason for why I think aggressive is better than cool is because it's what worked for me. The situation in my context are mostly clubs and home party's were I won't see the girls again if they walk out of the room.

Redditlogan · 2018-07-08T08:34:14+00:00

Great question, interested to read what people say!

dodged_that_one · 2018-07-08T10:08:08+00:00

What's right depends on you, the girl and the situation. What's right is what's appropriate and that's not a fixed answer.

Lambdal7 · 2018-07-08T11:34:30+00:00

You need both.

WIA20XX · 2018-07-08T12:30:02+00:00

There are three ways.

What regular guys do, talk to the closest female, find commonalities and then try to fuck.
be direct with a chick in word and action. This is you chasing her down, something that she's experienced with (Direct)
make her chase you. (Indirect)

Both direct and indirect require that you approach, stay calm when she tests you, and then lead her to bed.

Both require aggression and playing it cool.

duncmancan · 2018-07-08T13:02:05+00:00

Aye thats 1 thing the pioneer of this stuff got right. Mystery said you gotta. Have the ghost and the flame. You gotta be cool at all times but something triggers your passion and then youre up and at em

Flintblood · 2018-07-08T13:17:15+00:00

I would say it mostly depends on the girl and the situation. If she’s in your circle at work or through friends then it might be best to play the long game and bait and build some tension. If you’re in a club or in a situation where the reality is that she has no tie to you and can go ‘poof’in an instant (club or Tinder, etc...) be more aggressive at the outset.

bloodsaber64 · 2018-07-08T15:11:56+00:00

Depends on the situation. With bars, clubs and places where the chick wont be around for long, you dont have time for anything but being direct. If you have the time, buttering her up with some indirect game can increase your chances, but dont forget, there really are fast girls out there that want it direct.

Title	What works better? Aggressiveness or Playing it Cool?
Author	ghostinapill
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	July 8, 2018 7:24 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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