In her own words she’s described her mom as controlling, she’s said she gaslight her when she was younger, and her mom threw tantrums a lot. She’s also said her dad never spoke up during this. She’s now 22 and despite being fresh out of college with a job with a nice salary she moves back in with her parents. She said her mom doesn’t like when she talks on the phone, so she can only talk when she’s on the train going home from work (she has a tiger mom). Once when talking to her she once admitted the best way to control someone is to be nice and then cold. I’m a big believer in that people will tell you how to control them if you listen hard enough. Given what I just told you how can I use all of this to my advantage?