Any advice for me? Socially awkward guy

un_salamandre · 2018-10-03T14:24:25+00:00

You know what? I was in the same situation as you, kissless virgin at 20 years old. What I did was I used tinder, and after half a year of trying (I was bad at it) I got a date together which ended well. Later we got in a relationship which eventually broke up, but the fact that I had "succeeded" once changed so much for me, I didn't longer need to feel like "maybe there's somehting wrong with me". So I know what you're feeling. In the end I don't think tinder is a good source of "relationship material" (exceptions exist) but I needed that first step, as a catalyzer.

The principles that guided me were "get more female friends", and "get out of the comfort zone". Don't worry, you'll get there eventually. But also, something many "nice guys" or whatever miss: be selfless. Despise egoism. Try to get much much better at empathy and putting yourself in someone else's shoes. THat helps.

thisiswhyicant · 2018-10-03T20:36:27+00:00

Workout a lot. Don’t be obsessed with the fact you can’t find a girl - it’ll put you in a mindset that will just end up fucking you over. Realize that you don’t need validation from anyone else but yourself. Keep your mind busy & distracted. Don’t stay cooped up in a room all day. Perhaps most importantly, get out of your comfort zone. Get to a point where you say fuck it and just be yourself - this will decrease your anxiety (which I assume you have a little of) and make things easier. Download tinder and have at it dude. I recently made all these changes myself so I can speak from absolutely experience. Don’t stress about it dude, your time will come soon.

goron24 · 2018-10-03T21:54:14+00:00

Someone I talked to put it very simply. You need to realize you are NOT the main character, all eyes are not on you and people aren't going to even notice if you do something slightly (or majorly) wrong. Its somewhat freeing to understand that, as well as that everyone is likely thinking the same thing you are but about themselves.

kurakaa · 2018-10-03T18:32:03+00:00

meditate. trust me thats all u need don't bother reading anything

Raffix · 2018-10-03T20:07:46+00:00

Work on yourself first.
You'll have success with women without even trying if you have a lot to offer to the opposite sex.

Do you lift or go to the gym regularly? Sure it helps to be tall, but we can't do anything about height, but you can definitely be fit.

Go you have a good stable job? Do you own a nice car and a nice apartment/house? Social status is very important to women, don't neglect yours. Also, dress your age with clothes that fit.

Are you needy and clingy when you're with a woman you are interested in courting? Woman hate that, you have to be indifferent while still being the one that initiates, hence why seduction is a game.

So that's the key, just work on what you have to offer, what makes you different than all the other men that have hit on a girl before you've hit on her. That's my first and most important tip.

If you want my second most important tip, here it is:
Don't be afraid of rejection, embrace it.

I've been rejected by women that didn't buy into my frame only to later change their mind, rejection is not the end. Stay in frame, be indifferent of the outcome. It all gets easier with time and experience.

dimitrimarylucy · 2018-10-04T04:48:26+00:00

Sounds like you just need a win. I can't help on that front. My first, second, third and twentieth girl in high school all involved me drinking, then meeting them, then seducing them. So I can't help much other than saying, one win, then life is your oyster.

Title	Any advice for me? Socially awkward guy
Author	TheStoicStudent98
Upvotes	19
Comments	16
Date	October 3, 2018 12:11 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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