how to not overthink everything while dating? how not to be clingy?

Frosty1990 · 2018-10-31T02:41:14+00:00

It’s tough man honestly I’m going through it right now, the best way is to keep your mind occupied doing whatever it is you like to do. Those ideas will run rampant if your not doing anything and being idle, it’s vital to keep them in check

theo1188 · 2018-10-31T19:06:34+00:00

You don’t need to have multiple girls in your life to value, and feel comfortable around one girl. The key to confidence in your relationship is being able to bring something to the table. Instead of reaching out to other girls (not a good move while you’re in a relationship) reach out for other opportunities. Go for a promotion, sign up for a marathon, do something outside of your comfort zone and better yourself. You can’t be dependent on a woman for happiness, and you can’t expect a woman to be dependent on you. That’s an unhealthy relationship. Continue to build your life up, she’s an addition to your life, a teammate if you will. but she is also her own person.

How to bring the spark back: Don’t expect constant attention from her, pretend it’s the beginning of the relationship all over again. When she texts you get excited, this is your opportunity to flirt with her. When you see her think “damn I like this girl how can I seduce her”. Text her with a smile on your face, and realize that every text you get back is by her own choice, and not an obligation. When you sleep together realize that this girl is actually fucking with you, it’s her choice! Holy shit buddy you did it! Even if it’s the 1000th time. She’s still doing it. Don’t expect, and you will be happy with what you get. That being said obviously expect loyalty, it’s not alright if she’s fucking other guys etc.

Hope this helps!

akareeno · 2018-10-31T04:48:48+00:00

Going through something similar too. Makes me feel like a loser for thinking all these thoughts and end up depressed lol. I find distractions helpful and thinking about other girls.

K3wp · 2018-10-31T13:07:41+00:00

Build abundance. Put as many girls as possible on your shelf. That way no single one will occupy too much of your mind.

amuster588 · 2018-10-31T06:55:52+00:00

Don't Jerk of for a couple of days before a date if you're feeling like a clingy little bitch, that should make you act like a man. It's the miracle cure you've been looking for.

blueidiot314 · 2018-10-31T06:37:40+00:00

It's kind of a natural response. If you only have 1 or 2 chicks into you you're going to be worried that number is going to reach zero, whereas if you had 40 or 50 chicks dying to chat with you, you'd be a lot more rude and disrespectful, and not care as much about what each individual chick thought. You just need to be in an environment where there's more opportunities to be around beautiful women.

theo1188 · 2018-10-31T20:33:18+00:00

Anytime man! Iv been through the same thing and learned from my mistakes, I’m glad you could find value in it!

dailymanup · 2018-10-31T03:14:00+00:00

Basically you need to expand your opportunities with women. If you have more choices, then what any one girl is doing won't matter as much. The way to do this is to start either (1) cold approaching women or (2) building your social network and meet women that way. Or some combination of both strategies. You'll also find that when you have more choices with women, suddenly the women you're concerned about seem to have more interest in you. It's a fascinating phenomenon which you'll really enjoy if you take this advice and meet a few more girls. For cold approach motivation, check out Fuck It. For networking tips, check out the college approach.

UnfairCorner · 2018-10-31T02:42:19+00:00

Try to date more than one girls at once and keep yourself active. You are a man of value. Let her chase you!

Title	how to not overthink everything while dating? how not to be clingy?
Author	-i-think-too-much-
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	October 31, 2018 2:36 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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