How do you forget about the past?

self_knowledge · 2014-04-24T21:39:21+00:00

You forget about the past by not contacting the past. If you continue to contact it, it remains in the present making it difficult to put out of mind.

This is an exercise in self-discipline. No contact, and do not even ask about her. How she's doing is irrelevant to your life now.

Sarcasticus · 2014-04-24T23:56:03+00:00

You can't forget the past. You'll always look back on your blue pill moments and cringe.

However, you can use these previous failures to motivate yourself to future success. For one thing, these past failures give you a model of how not to behave.

Determine what success means to you, now that you've taken the red pill. Then go about working hard to attain that success.

FortunateBum · 2014-04-25T00:46:12+00:00

You don't forget. You simply walk so far down the road that when you look back you can barely see it anymore.

unmitigatedbadassery · 2014-04-24T21:55:42+00:00

I don't really like the past. I respect it for what it teaches me, and every now and then I'll reflect on it to see what I can learn or may have forgotten. But the past was a worse version of me, a less wise version. Therefore I never want to go back. The future however has so much potential, it is really quite beautiful. As a perpetual min/max-er this helps me move forward.

Pornography_saves_li · 2014-04-24T22:33:00+00:00

Its a normal stop along the path. At first, you are motivated by your failures. Then, when you begin to taste success, you are motivated by desire. Bitterness naturally recedes, provided you set attainable goals, and meet with success. The key is, set attainable goals.

masonpowers96 · 2014-04-25T02:00:53+00:00

You don't forget. You learn from it. You focus on self improvement either mental and/or physical. Figure out your worth. Figure out what you can bring to the table in a relationship/friendship, what you have to offer. Once you've learned all you feel you can from the past you can move forward with a clear(er) path.

PlantNutrient · 2014-04-25T02:54:16+00:00

The past you was inexperienced and dumb. Look back and laugh at him like you would any beta/bp today. That isn't who you are now, you are and always will be better from this day forward.

MarriedRP · 2014-04-24T22:01:22+00:00

Reflect. At the end of the day, then no more. Decide how you would live the day over if you could. Figure out what you are going to work on tomorrow. Plan on how you are going to act next time a similar situation comes up.

Do not dwell. Think of anything else. A success is a nice thing to switch your mind to. Make sure you have at least one real success everyday to look back on that evening. If not, try harder tomorrow.

It's hard. I still think about my first girlfriend 25 years ago, she was a keeper and how I fucked it up. I know I was too much of an asshole back then to deserve her. I'm sure she's with a great guy now. I'm glad she moved on, and it allowed me to grow as a person; as a man. Now I am confident I would be worthy of her or any woman I have ever met. Or at least I'm actively on my way to becoming that man, getting better each and every day.

[deleted] · 2014-04-25T01:12:07+00:00

Disdain it. Cut your losses and let the winners ride. And if you have no winners, improve, take a risk, and follow through.

long-lostfriend · 2014-04-25T03:28:01+00:00

I still have emails I exchanged with my ex-wife in the waning months before we got separated six years ago. It's some of the most supplicating, Blue Pill shit you could imagine.

Why do I keep them? because it reminds me how far I have come. It's like reading the words of a different person at this point. I don't want to forget the way I used to be. I want to rejoice in the fact that I am not that guy anymore and never will be again.

Lastly, it keeps me humble, so that I don't start acting like I have had this figured out my whole life (sound familiar, redditors?). Because of this, it also encourages me to help other guys take the Red Pill rather than to write them off as lost causes.

Varrian · 2014-04-25T07:48:36+00:00

You don't forget; you use it. Every failure is one step closer to success. Every rejection is one inch closer to getting her in bed. You need to be rejected over and over and over again before you can develop a skin thick enough to just brush it off. These are not things to be forgotten but celebrated; you're on the road, just keep running forward.

Reframe your mistakes into lessons and you will gain from them instead of losing. This experience is irreplaceable, why would you want to forget?

"I have not failed. I've just found 10000 ways that won't work." - Thomas A. Edison

physicalchemistry · 2014-04-25T10:23:48+00:00

You don't forget it. As long as you are aware of your flaws and mistakes they make you stronger. Accept defeat.

But never shall you dwell in the past. Nobody can change it.

[deleted] · 2014-05-01T15:29:51+00:00

You forget the past by not assigning it a value. The only way it can bring you down is if you let it. TRP is about, opening your eyes, becoming the best you, and dumping the past to finally never be held down again.

Abreseyes · 2014-04-25T18:50:04+00:00

I don't think it's a case of needing to forget the past as much as a way of thinking.For some reason we're led to believe we're the same people throughout our lives and we can't change.Even prior to finding TRP I changed a lot as I seeked to improve myself.

Anyone who has something about them will be changing year by year, but lazy people don't want you to believe that.You were a geek in high school then your friends and even family will be threatened as you make strides and belittle their achievements by comparison.The best way of doing this is to remind you of your past to keep you in your box.

Who cares who you are, what you did in the past it's all bullshit anyway, just live and don't let the bastards grind you down.

Title	How do you forget about the past?
Author	The_BitterTruth
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	April 24, 2014 9:30 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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