Is it possible to learn good game from only pure experience?

Murfdigidy · 2018-12-17T04:03:37+00:00

Everything is learned thru experience and only experience but reading and learning gets you thinking and knowing as youre going thru the experiences that things start to click. You begin to remember things people said, Things you read in books and begin to say... Oh yea that's what the guy meant when he said that in the book.

But ultimately they only click when you go thru that experience of doing it yourself.

Think of it as sex, everyone and their mother can tell you what and how sex is but until you go thru it yourself you don't really know

shimmyshammy2119 · 2018-12-17T15:01:06+00:00

The purpose of reading is to give you the guidance you need to learn from experience, but experience is the best way to learn by far.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-01-03T05:07:52+00:00

It's been a busy few weeks but I had this earmarked for reply so......

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Is it possible to learn good game from only pure experience?

This would be trial and error. It really depends on your personality, temperament, and the kinds of mistakes you're likely to be making on your own personal road. Some people tend towards the kinds of mistakes that are easier to learn from. Some people tend towards the kind of mistakes and life lessons that take a little longer to learn from. Some people are more self-aware, which also can help.

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There is so much fucking information on the internet on how to get girls. It's very confusing, so I think it would be easier just to learn from experience. But I don't know if it is possible since I'll probably miss out on technical aspects.

The assumption here is that all the "fucking information" on the Internet has all been written by the same person or that there's only one truth out there. Well, you have only to look at all the religions of the world to know that this is false.

Much is determined by what we want in life. Some people want a meek partner. Some people want a dysfunctional relationship (even if they don't realize it). Some people want a fling. Some people want a family and kids and a white picket fence.

Are you surprised at all that all these different wants and needs would result in differing views about the best ways to meet girls or go about dating?

The question is, what do you want? Answer that, then think about who's writing the things you're writing.

What are their dating goals?
What sort of things are they prioritizing in their advice?
Do they have a chip on their shoulder and are they blaming others for their misfortune or they taking responsibility for their half of their social interactions?

No one can perform this process for you. Every person out there has to figure these things out for themselves.

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I would be greatful if someone could sum up the most important parts about game wich are important to have in mind. Just so I could learn from experience but still have some rules to go by.

You've said nothing about what you want so there's no way to really answer this well. But the bare bones, without anything covering what you actually want out of dating, are:

Confidence. The ability to confidently and comfortably express (non-verbally especially) what one wants.
- Taken too far without empathy to lend perspective, this leads to the guy being too over-powering. The lack of this will repel people, obviously.
Empathy. The ability to tune into the other person, pick up on what they want, and offer that to them.
- Taken too far without confidence to spur the guy on to make moves and express his wants, etc., this leads to guys being pegged as nice guys and being "friend-zoned." The lack of this leads to scaring girls away or attracting manipulative women.
Boundaries . The ability to draw your own lines and only offer up what you're actually okay offering up. (Example: Offering help is fine, but offering to help at the expense of constantly sacrificing yourself, is going too far.)
- Taken too far, this can lead to guys making excuses to justify inaction and not pursuing people they're interested in. Without boundaries at all, one is back at being a nice guy, sacrificing his self-respect for approval.
Logistics. One needs the place and opportunity for things to escalate, assuming one wants to escalate to sex, etc.
- This is about timing: being aware of whatever limitations she may have. This is about providing or planning for the place and time that sex could happen. If you don't set the table, there's no dinner.

Tidusblood · 2018-12-16T18:10:34+00:00

yes it is possible. but reading is essentially a condensed version of a persons experiences. you should SUPPLEMENT your experiences with reading and not the other way around.

your approach should be this.

go out
do your thing

come home and dissect your night out and go through sticking points and things you learnt/picked up and how you can improve for next time.
watch a video on youtube like an rsd video or read a book.
if you dont know what to read or what to search for just start somewhere, eventually you will look for specific things you want to learn more about when you get a better understanding of yourself

bralk_hibovit · 2018-12-16T17:31:07+00:00

See Karisma King

Reggeidt · 2018-12-16T18:54:14+00:00

Is it possible to learn good game from only pure experience?

No.
The core principles are few and easy to memorize but they dont all make sense.
That being said, shitty game can get you a girl, good game cant get you all the girls.
At the end of the day just approach no matter your level of knowledge. But keep reading.

newportking10 · 2018-12-19T19:18:13+00:00

Get off your butt and experience life. I use my self confidence and my sense of humor to attract woman. A sense of humor can get you into some uncomfortable situations. I've made some really stupid comments, thinking I was being cute. I wouldn't know they were off putting, if I hadn't tried them out. The benefits of experience are many but the most important is that when you finally meet a desirable woman you'll know what works and what doesn't. Good luck in your quest.

Title	Is it possible to learn good game from only pure experience?
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Date	December 16, 2018 5:20 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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