How to stop crying when I get into a really heated argument?

alpha_n3rd · 2015-02-05T18:14:33+00:00

Don't argue. Problem solved.

Stayinghereforreal · 2015-02-05T17:16:34+00:00

Laugh about it, right when it happens. Humor is a near-universal solvent in terms of getting over something, even while it is happening. It will slice through your own anger and the resulting reaction in your tear ducts, which is an involuntary thing.

Just own it, make fun of it, and then continue on with your agenda. Say something along the lines of "Oh, great, here I go, crying like a kid whose candy just fell on the carpet. Ah, well. As I was saying about this crap pissing me off ...."

In addition to that, more long term, work on that emotional management stuff. As a guy who had to work for a loooong time on controlling his temper, I promise you, that you can get better at managing your emotional reaction. It takes time and attention to it, though.

secret_barber · 2015-02-05T19:54:08+00:00

I start yelling

Don't yell, don't fight. Realize it's a pointless conversation and remove yourself from it.

JayViceroy · 2015-02-06T01:58:37+00:00

If you're yelling you've already lost frame. Keep a quiet and composed demeanor. If at any moment you feel like you can't do this, you walk away. Always maintain frame.

-ShadySoul- · 2015-02-05T23:43:42+00:00

Used to have this problem whenever I would get into a heated argument with my mother. No one else, just her. It was like a defense mechanism because tears used to be the only thing stopping her from beating me as a kid. Now, even as an adult I can start tearing up when arguing with her.

My solution? To mirror a lot of advice on here...stop the arguing. Rise above it, don't get intimidated, and don't lower yourself to her level. If she starts screaming, remain calm and cold. The sign of a beta man is to get angry at something irrational - such as a woman,

LambdaMale · 2015-02-05T18:27:46+00:00

I have the same issue. I haven't found a way around it when I got really angry, so the only thing, really, is to avoid getting angry in arguments. Honestly, so far I fared well with walking out of an argument, letting out the anger and then going back after cooling off.

TheReason13 · 2015-02-05T23:40:41+00:00

I've seen this before, its involuntary. I'm not sure how old you are but you should grow out of it in time. A very long time though, these kinds of things are ...... instinctive, for lack of a better word. It may have a lot to do with your testosterone levels, if you have the option check it out.

There's not much you can do about it, the best advice here is not to argue. Its advice every man should take. If a women starts shit treat her like a child and never take them seriously. You must never allow a woman to control you emotionally, be an oak tree.

oldredder · 2015-02-06T06:39:09+00:00

Obviously you really are emotional. This is not how it's ever supposed to go down.

RPReloaded · 2015-02-05T22:18:40+00:00

Rise above this childish shit. Not the crying, but the arguing. Remember, she is the most responsible teenager in the house. Treat her as such. Those tantrums and that whining? Ignore that shit, don't get caught up in it.

MrEiffel · 2015-02-05T21:46:23+00:00

Most likely you have some deep rooted issues which haven't been resolved and they come to the surface whenever you become emotional?

Masonjarteadrinker2 · 2015-02-05T22:39:51+00:00

You're trying to mask the problem, you need to learn to control your emotions better so you don't get into a yelling argument. There's no point in doing that.

lemoncakesaregross · 2015-02-05T17:22:53+00:00

Let your emotions flow as they are

Holding shit in is not healthy

Nate1471 · 2015-02-05T17:10:18+00:00

Paxil ... Shits legit

TheBoldakSaints · 2015-02-06T02:51:58+00:00

http://imgur.com/NIyIrVG

Title	How to stop crying when I get into a really heated argument?
Author	LeMachismo
Upvotes	5
Comments	21
Date	February 5, 2015 5:04 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2uvyh5/how_to_stop_crying_when_i_get_into_a_really/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/how-to-stop-crying-when-i-get-into-a-really-heated.145930 https://theredarchive.com/post/145930

Comments