I want to make this girl my gf, however I’m entering the friend zone and need advice

PuroPincheGains · 2019-01-22T04:08:21+00:00

You need to move on. She just left a relationship dude. Of course she's not ready to just jump into a new one. She does want the cuddles and conversation, but she's not ready for the commitment and intimacy. You can't force this. What you can do is maintain your frame, back off a little, be her friend, be your best self, and date other people. That is your best chance for creating a scenario where this current gurl does decide she wants you. It's not about logic, and being persistant is going to come across as super needy. Stop cuddling with her. That's needy to. It's an, "I'll take what I can get," attitude and it meets her needs while never fulfilling yours. Once you pick yourself up, hit the gym, and start flirting with other women; her attraction for you will either increase making her want you, or you won't care anymore. You're last paragraph sounds super needy dude. There's lots of women out there and many of them are prettier and have more in common with you than this girl. Sometimes things don't go how we imagine, but things will never go how you want if you let yourself succumb to oneitis.

Chabubu · 2019-01-22T04:39:16+00:00

Ever since then we’ve just hung out and cuddled a little bit and watched movies together. Any advice for how I can save my chance with her and get out of the friend zone?

She said "I am not ready for a relationship"

And your response was essentially "OK, I'm OK being your cuddle buddy and waiting for you in case you change your mind."

That is low value and not going to win her over. You need to immediately put a stop to it.

Tell her your honest intentions. "I know you just got out of a relationship and I understand if you need time to yourself, but I like you and want to date you, so I'm not OK just hanging around and being friends. That may be comforting for you, but it's not for me. I hope you understand. Let me know if anything changes."

Then you cut her off and stop talking to her. Short, concise, polite answers are acceptable responses to texts from her, but you're not her "help me get over a breakup" friend.

You're losing value and once she sees you as an emotional support buddy, she will never see you as a man/potential boyfriend.

Like someone else said, go read "how to be a 3% man"

kellykebab · 2019-01-22T05:13:03+00:00

we’re alike in so many ways

This is very likely all in your imagination.

Chabubu · 2019-01-22T04:31:25+00:00

Read how to be a 3% man, a post this subreddit has the book for free.

Frya · 2019-01-22T17:52:23+00:00

"However she said she didn’t feel a spark with me " - she's not wet. You are not turning her on. Turn the heat.

She left her bf. 100% she wanted to fuck around hard. She wanted to have fun, be silly, get dirty to relieve the stress. Yet...

"A couple days afterwards she ended up getting super high and ended up making out with me in bed (she was sleeping with me in my bed) " - this is not how things work dude. Girl that ends up in other mans bed after a breakup wants it deeper and dirtier than with ex to forget and rewire. And in your case it was dry.

"Any advice for how I can save my chance with her and get out of the friend zone? " - Dick her down properly. She's meeting with you and cuddling, so you have tons of opportunity. Turn her on. Express your desire. Handle her like a man. Own her body. Turn her on so she's red hot (gradually ofc, respecting no, push-pull, escalation), and make her beg you to put your dick inside her. Make her say it, make her invest. And give her pleasure. Make it regular. Try giving her O with your dick every other day. Make her invest emotionally (push her boundaries, make her give you more than she was giving to her ex), and then make her chase you (start reducing your availability, but when you give her your d, make the reward sweet as fuck).

" I really want to be in a relationship" - you are her post relationship hookup, and she's telling you this straight out. Keep this in mind. You are her bucket of ice cream.

2019-01-22T10:40:29+00:00

Cut contact bro.

She's getting support and cuddles while you receive shit. I don't know how busy you are, but if that were me, I would've broken that deal. Why waste time and energy, not to mention emotions for someone, who will just be with you there but will not give you something in return? Nah man, just nah.

Conor_Niggregor · 2019-01-22T11:30:13+00:00

you're acting like a girl

anderfernandes · 2019-01-22T14:30:58+00:00

I've heard that before.

One thing I learned about women is that not everything they say reflect what they truly truly want deep down.

One thing that happened in my case was that one night me and her were at the club and pretty girls that I knew asked me to dance. That drove her nuts. My "wingwoman" (one of her best friends) told her "you're just gonna let him go like that?"

I'd say start saying no, start showing her how awesome you are in addition to showing her that you are also being desired by other women.

Title	I want to make this girl my gf, however I’m entering the friend zone and need advice
Author	KamikazeDoragon
Upvotes	9
Comments	12
Date	January 22, 2019 3:36 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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