Need a club advice

hunterpua · 2019-01-22T18:23:08+00:00

The reason you aren't getting eye contact is because you're trying to get eye contact.

Think about what you communicate when you're constantly looking around the club like that.

Since you're scanning the room you're basically saying the fun isn't where you're at, its somewhere else and you're trying to find it.

That means you're communicating that you want to take value.

No one wants value taken from them.

The typical club goer doesn't go there to entertain someone else.

They go there to entertain themselves and have a good time.

You don't want to try to get attention.

You want to attract attention.

Don't try to 'catch' their eyes, let their eyes come to you.

How do you do that?

Have as much fun as you can and share that fun with everyone around you.

There are so many fun things you can do.

You can get talking to girl and play some fun games with her so she's constantly laughing and giggling.

That will attract attention.

People will look to see what's going on, why she's laughing so much and they will see that you're the source of all that fun.

There you go, you got their eyes.

Now all you need to do is wave at them or smile and say hi.

How do you do that on the dancefloor?

Fucking dance for the hell of it!

When it all started, nightclubs were not created so people could try to grind or make out on the dancefloor and hopefully get laid. They were created so people could have a good time and a big part of that good time was dancing.

So actually go and dance and fucking enjoy yourself.

Let yourself loose and express yourself freely.

It will come through clear as day to everyone else around you.

Shit, I've had girls open me on the dance floor or start dancing with me when I was just really feeling the music and the vibes and just fucking dancing for the heck of it.

I guarantee when your main priority is to have fun on that dancefloor and only have eye contact as an afterthought, you'll notice girls give you way more eye contact.

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Now, when it comes to approaching someone on the dancefloor there doesn't really need to be much of a moment or even a break in the action.

All you really need to do is keep dancing while moving towards them until you end up dancing with them.

If they aren't looking you can say something or make some sort of noise with your mouth to get their attention.

You can say, "Damn girl!" when she does something particularly impressive.

You can sing along to the song that's playing if they're singing along, when they hear you and look just look back and give them a nod and start dancing with them.

Doesn't matter if theres two of them or three or whatever.

Not every dance is a fucking couple dance, you can dance with both of them in a way where you're just raging, having a good time.

If you wanna escalate, escalate on both of them.

That's actually a much better way to escalate on the dancefloor because most girls expect the straight escalation and they're likely to resist it unless they're already extremely attracted to you.

But when you escalate with two or more girls at once you also leave one of the girls to focus on another.

Plus you gain social proof and pre-selection.

One, that'll make the girl miss the feeling of you escalating with her so she'll want it back and when you do come back she'll be more likely to allow you to go further.

And two, since her other friends are escalating on you she'll want to join the bandwagon.

This happens for all of them individually so all of them will want to join the bandwagon that they themselves are creating and all of them will miss the feeling of you escalating on them and all of them will be jealous of each other so you end up with a chain reaction where they just escalate further and further with you.

Escalating on the dancefloor isn't as "taboo" as just escalating while you're standing still and talking or sitting.

In fact, a lot of girls just dismiss grinding as just another dance move that doesn't mean anything.

A lot of guys who are new to clubs get blue balls because they think a girl was grinding on them coz she liked them when in reality that was just another dance move to her.

Dancing sexually is just kind of a girls thing.

They even dance sexually with each other.

So when escalating on two girls at once would be a big no no if done outside a dancefloor, on the dancefloor its completely acceptable.

If you make out with somebody though, make out with only one of them or try not to make out at all.

Its an awesome party trick but it doesn't really help you take a girl home and actually get laid.

Better to enjoy the dance and then properly introduce yourself afterwards and take them off the dance floor so that you can set up the pull.

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WildinCuzImYoung · 2019-01-22T22:18:32+00:00

If by not even 2s you mean total interaction that's disinterest but if its 2s every other time turn to the side when dancing the yeah that's how dancing work you move your head to the beat your not there to have a conversation. Proximity can be an IOI.

If they are rubbing their butts on yours thats more likely than not an IOI.

Depending on your smv, their compliance and balls open by grinding your back / bump into them while dancing and then step in front of them while dancing (intensity depends on situation). There, problem solved you now have eye contact as your in her face. If the atmosphere is hot enough put your arms around the girl while you dance and maybe even kiss her if she is receptive.

Majority of your interaction is made up with dancing instead of talking that's how she is experiencing you there. Keep it simple and short intent statements like your hot / you smell good / I love the way you move and logistics of who they are with, where after, why she there.

If she is horny and there for a obvious reason stick to the dance floor pushing for the here and now mentality with her riding that physical spark to make out / pull. If she is cool and collected try to move her off dance floor eg drinks, smoke, meet friends so you can actually talk to her and game her verbally.

Ultimately all of this shit is to put you in a position to get physical with a girl so 'love' can happen. Dance floor has the potential to be that position and just get straight to the point where both of you know what is on the table.

Finale key note: sub communications. When you to talk to her you game her with those subs but dancing has it's own set. So stop over thinking this just dance to have fun, not caring what others think and be self sufficient with fun / good emoticons. Make the dancefloor yours and you will seem valuable in the eyes of girls that are on it.

ntipz011 · 2019-01-22T18:53:44+00:00

Read the long comment that other guy postes.

Short answer, open people until you're having so much fun that everyone is looking at you.

If it still doesn't work taptap on the shoulder to get her to look at you

codewizbambam · 2019-01-22T20:49:58+00:00

Probably you don't know IOI's in and out. There's 26 basic IOI's body language wise. Read "Undercover Sex Signals" by Leil Lowndes.

Title	Need a club advice
Author	WeonaQueBrutal
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	January 22, 2019 5:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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