How do I start having a sex life in college (at 24 lol)

lifting_alpha · 2019-03-22T14:41:59+00:00

Okay, so my advice first and foremost is to just relax for a moment. Personally, my 20s sucked and my 30s are better than I could have imagined. I had a youthful face and always looked young, and that was a disadvantage until it became a distinct advantage. Hang in there, your time will come.

For now, if you want to be successful with women, my advice is to read some of the classic literature like Models and The Rational Male, and to really double down on lifting. Women like strong guys with visible upper body fitness cues, and that's going to really increase your chances of having successful interactions with women.

I also suggest you watch as many Real Social Dynamics (RSD) videos on YouTube. Owen Cook's material really helped me, in addition to educating myself with the books I mentioned. Combined with the aforementioned books, my game improved immeasurably.

You're in a transitional phase in your life. It seems like you're at this point everyone goes through where you need to confront the aspects of yourself that aren't going to work for you as you transition into true adulthood. I don't want you to answer me about these things, but ask them of yourself: Do you play video games too much? Do you watch porn too much? Do you consume too much cannabis? Are your priorities in order? Do you eat right, sleep well, and exercise? Making substantial lifestyle changes in these areas were a significant component of my personal transition into adulthood, becoming a man, and the thing that's really important to understand is that women really value and seek out emotional maturity in men. It's extremely attractive to them. I'm not saying any of this to be critical, I don't even know you, but I'm just trying to give you some food for thought and some action items for improvement.

When I was in grad school, I worked out a ton and became very happy with my body, my level of fitness. I liked how I looked with my clothes off, and I did it by lifting weights, yoga, and a bunch of other physical activities (and eating protein consistently). I also upped my game by reading the books I mentioned in addition to a bunch more like How To Win Friends and Influence People, and watching tons of RSD videos. I cut out video games from my life (a huge deal for me) and stopped watching porn. I also cut cannabis out of my life, again a huge deal for me. I felt like these things made me a verifiable man, and women responded very well to these positive lifestyle changes I made. I'd start to invite women to the awesome things I did (women love hiking, for example).

Something I noticed was that pre-fitness and post-fitness me would have insanely different responses from women. It was crazy. Getting fit and strong and being visibly ripped will make women respond better to you, I guarantee it. That was my experience 100%. For me, taking all the time I'd previously spend high af playing WoW or Starcraft and investing that time in the gym changed my life in ways I hadn't imagined possible.

I hope that helps. Best of luck to you, bro.

2019-03-22T15:10:12+00:00

It's not how you look FYI.

dailymanup · 2019-03-22T16:43:01+00:00

First, you look fine. In fact you look better than half the guys running around college campuses getting laid all the time. Here's your problem. You care too much. You worry too much. And you lack confidence. You need to get out of your own way. If you walked around and started talking to girls all over the place with the attitude of "I could give zero fucks, i'm just a carefree dude who gets laid all the time," guess what would happen. You would start getting laid all the time. Because girls want to sleep with guys who don't care about getting laid. And they don't want to sleep with guys who feel sorry for themselves and worry about what they look like, when in fact they look better and more cocky douchey (in a good way) than most other guys. (Seriously dude, you have an elongated jaw and killer hair, calm the fuck down). Go watch this video about changing your mindset and making her chase you. That will get you started.

penis_sosmall · 2019-03-23T00:51:02+00:00

I think I have interesting perspective to share... grew up a fat kid, jacked by 20, really jacked by 21 (single digit body fat at 205 lbs, and bald at 22.)

You’re a good looking guy—- it’s that you need to figure out who you are and what you offer.

When I was a thirsty guy, I didn’t do well. When I got jacked and got some self confidence, even though I was balding, I did well.

Why? I knew who I was and what I can offer.

You have more life experience than the women you’re chasing. Use that to your advantage. You’re in shape, and can do just fine.

Easier said than done, but relax.

Good luck!!

Edit- I’m in my late 20s now, have a girlfriend that checks a lot of boxes... stimulates me, attractive, does well in her career...

I’m not nearly as jacked as I was at 21... but I’m definitely more attractive now. Why? Because o know who I am. Who are you? What do you like? What’s important to you?

As a bonus, why are you older than the average college student? Do you have life experiences that you can use to your advantage? I think you do

Edit 2- if you can answer the questions in e1 honestly, then things will change for you. Your looks aren’t holding you back, I promise.

UrbanDevice · 2019-03-22T12:44:04+00:00

Go out and meet chicks or tinder or through friends and start flirting.

Title	How do I start having a sex life in college (at 24 lol)
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Date	March 22, 2019 11:24 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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