When I see an attractive girl who seems to give me some hints, I end up thinking: "that's just her personality. She does this to other guys as well." I tend to mentally talk myself into this, with or without evidence. Part of me is telling me it's unhealthy and counterproductive to getting a girl.

Perspective change and affirmation is important for inner game, so if you've had this type of self-sabotaging mentality before, what affirmation/ belief did you replace it with?

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Edit: Based on the replies, I think I gave off the impression that I never even talked to this girl. That's not the case. We do talk. I think I see hints, but I'm not sure. I still have those self-sabotaging thoughts.