I feel like the abundance mentality means that guys are giving up the seduction process too early. They open, if they click they continue, if not there's another million girls. Nothing wrong with that, it certainly would be easier.

This is the general theme in the book "models" and "how to be a 3% man." But do you guys ever keeping trying with a girl?

My story.

Girl at work. Different department so don't always see each other. Always joke and flirt when we see each other. Though our interactions are never too long. Once she even bought me chips because the day before I told her I was collecting the toy inside.

After she got me the chip I thought she must be interested so I asked her out. Sent her a message saying I'd be around her place the next day doing something and to let me know if she wants to join. Messages are far apart and she never actually says she'll come. We don't meet up.

I think most guys would just give up here. Next and find another girl.

I forget about it and keep just talking and flirting with her like normal. Later on I find out she works a second job the time that I messaged her (she didn't actually say that's why she didn't reply it just came up in conversation).

I go away for 2 weeks for a holiday. When I come back I ask her out again this time in person. I think she was a bit shocked cos she asked why and I just said I've missed you. I did this in a non needy way like I was just stating a fact. She gave me a big smile and we out for dinner.

Dinner was really good. Conversation flowed naturally. And then I took her home. When she first got in my car we just chatted for like an hour. Then when I dropped her off her she stayed in my car for like another half hour and continued to chat. Thought this was a really good sign. I probably should have escalate physically more though. But we were talking about some pretty deep stuff so it didn't seem appropriate.

Don't get to see her as she's going interstate for 10 days for a work thing. A few days before she's about to come back I sent her a message double checking she'd be back on this day. She said yes and I asked if she wanted to get dinner. She said maybe. I thought she was just trying to be cute so I just said I'll speak to you then.

The day arrives and she's not at work! Didn't message me or anything.

We haven't had contact since.

It did annoy me that she didn't message me. But I see no reason to bring it up. It'll just look like I'm freaking out over nothing. So I'll just keep being the same around her.

Would you continue the seduction process? I feel like there's something there and I can eventually break through it. Obviously I should still be talking to other girls in the mean time.

Any guys have any success in trying to "game" a girl over a longer time?