I met a hot woman on a dating app. She's 36, I'm 34. But she lives in another country, we both live in Europe. She put my city as her location because she "wanted to get a direct connection to my city". She usually replies but she has ignored me a few times, and at least once just went to bed without saying anything and didn't text when she woke up and saw the message either. She never initiates texting and she barely asks any questions. Even though she never initiates I see her online on the dating app all the time, searching my city, meaning she still has my city as her location.

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When I asked if she was planning to travel to my city she said "sooner or later" and "she doesn't want to plan because she wants it to be spontaneous", which both sound like kind of bullshit excuses, she might just be waiting for when she's texting with a guy she likes enough. She said if I come to her city I should contact her. Then when I asked if she would be my guide she said she would tour me around there and I would tour her around here, but it didn't seem like she was enthusiastic when she said it, she said "why not" at first, which I interpret as conveying reluctance or lack of enthusiasm although I might be over-analyzing. Then it irritates me that one time when we chatted she seemed like she had forgotten everything we had said in our previous chat.

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And another thing that irritates me about her is that I told her about how there are flights between her city and mine for only 35 euro and then I told her which airports it was. When I told her where her airport was she said it was far. Then when I told her how far google said her airport was from her city she said it wasn't so bad. Then when I told her I think Ryanair usually flies to small airports far from the city she said "ach I'm not sure about that", which seems like a bitchy thing to say because I hadn't really added any new information and yet she seemed to change her mind, making me think she's just saying whatever and just isn't interested in flying here, at least not that she would tell me about.

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Should I keep texting her? I mean she's hot, not very much older than me, looks like she could be under 30, has no kids I think from her profile info although the option just says "open to having children someday" but I think that means she doesn't have kids. Should I just forget about her but keep her number? Not sure she would even contact me if she travels here. Or should I even travel there? I mean it's just 35 euro for the flight, I would have to pay for a bus from the airport too though, maybe a bus to my airport too, but I have been planning to travel in July anyway. I told her I have been thinking about another region in Europe but that I might change it.

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Maybe I come across as beta if I travel to her city? Maybe she won't even reply or meet up there? I also think about some people I met when I was in her country a long time ago, I was taking a course there. These people went home to their country and back again over the weekend, something that felt unthinkable for me to do. That made me think that my country was far away. They also lived in another European country but yeah it was closer but still it gave me perspective and it gives a perspective to this situation now. The flight is 2 hours and 10 minutes and then 1 hour and 40 minutes bus from my city to my airport and 1 hour and 30 minutes from her airport to her city. Another thing is that a workmate of mine often talks about his frequent trips to this city, which makes me feel irritated to go there but that's not really important, I can just not tell him about it.