I've learned so much from you guys so I decided to write my very own FR!

I have a week off from work. Thursday I was bored at home so I said fuck it and decided to go out alone. I'm going through a rough dry spell so I know I have to get out there more.

I have to be honest, I was really anxious. I didn't want to go to my usual club I frequent in case I failed bad. I was hesitating quite a bit. So I decided to go to my old college city! There's a very vibrant student life there. Sure I'm 10 years older than the people there and it's a 30 minute drive but whatever.

When I was driving I gave myself the goal of approaching 3 girls, regardless of the outcome.

When I arrived the place was packed. Anxiety hit me HARD! I felt like a big weirdo, turned back and left. I walked a bit around the neighborhood kicking myself in the nuts. I saw a girl walking away from all the club and asked 'leaving so soon'? She said she wasn't even partying, just passing. She gave me a big smile but continued to walk.

I decided to reenter the club and bought a drink. I don't really know why but I felt more comfortable. The place was still packed, so I found myself a spot. I had some possibilities to approach (at the bar, when girls passed me, ...) but never acted on them, which sucks.

When the minutes passed I said fuck it. I didn't care that I was alone and people thought I was a weirdo because no one knew me (I admit I hoped not to encounter anyone I knew, still have to work on that). So I decided to just have fun and observe the nightlife. The place is pretty big so I bounced from spot to spot not to appear too weird.

First observation: 20 yo girls are hot lol! Second: pussy power is real. When I was waiting for a drink some guy working there was cleaning the glasses at the bar. When I asked him for a drink he said he didn't take orders. I saw him later ordering drinks for some hot girls.

It definitely is weird. Often when I'm out with friends I start to drift away from our group. It looks like I'm alone but I don't care. When I'm actually alone I feel weird. It's reassuring to have a 'base' of friends to turn to.

I was dancing when some guys started to fight and I got dragged into it. Luckily I didn't get hurt! After the fight I talked with some dude who was also caught in the fight. The bar was suddenly empty which made me feel 'weirder' being there alone. I noticed another guy who was alone just standing there with a big grin on his face. What a weirdo. But perhaps that's what people thought of me too lol.

People started entering again. The music was pretty good at that moment. I caught two girls with a HOT body dancing. Possibly sisters. I made some eye contact with the 'older' girl but was too scared to approach.

A bit later they started dancing closer to me. They were both approach by two guys immediately. I couldn't guess if they already knew each other. Having a strong wing is really important. One of the guys seemed to be progressing well and started touching the girl. The other guy seemed to fail at entertaining his set. The girls went back to their main spot a bit later.

By then it was 4 AM and I was getting tired so I called it a day. On my way to my car I asked a girl for directions.

This was a very, very interesting night. I failed my goal but I really stepped outside my comfort zone and I actually had fun dancing and observing all the other people. I will definitely do this more often.

My main tip for other guys: just do it! While I felt like a weirdo no one actually asked me why I was there alone. I was scared entering the club alone but ended up having fun! I won't feel as anxious going out alone the next time.

It also confirmed an observation of mine: I'm way too scared to approach girls at bars and clubs. Outside clubs I can start conversations with them pretty easily, but I keep failing at escalating.

Thanks for reading!