I wanted to cover this since I know this is something a lot of guys struggle with. The video below explains my extensively time tested advice to maximize your chances of getting laid on the first date:
https://youtu.be/XBtiSyKunQk
Quick Summary-
1) Set the right vibe/frame - The goal is to show that you are a dominant/sexual man from the start. And create a fun & flirty vibe full of sexual tension. In cold approach (especially during the daytime), I do this implicitly. I almost never blatantly make very sexual remarks or try to touch her too much (basically you want to always avoid being the “creep” who has no understanding of social norms). Instead, I am more implicit and suggestive. I build sexual tension by holding very strong eye contact, having a solid body language, and strategically inserting small pauses at the right time.
2) Screening - This very much bleeds into vibing. During an interaction, I am actually screening right from the start by being a confident dominant man who’s not ashamed of his sexuality or trying to hide his intentions (while still being very socially calibrated), I naturally screen out the majority of prude chicks. Then, just by being flirty, some more of the prude chicks will get screened out. And that is actually a very good thing. A high value guy knows that not every attractive girl will meet his criteria and will place his time above all else (while a confused PUA will try to go on a date with every girl thinking that it’s all about game). Furthermore, there will be an additional level of screening when I go to setup the date (more on this later)
3) Setting up the date - This is a small, but extremely crucial step to get right. You want to avoid dates that have a lower probability of resulting in sex. (Examples in the video). Personally, I will only do 3 types of first dates: Straight to my place, bar walking distance to my place and coffee shop walking distance to my place. That’s it. I save the funky activity dates for after I banged the girl and she becomes my booty call
4) Preparing for the date - This is also very important and a lot of this should be common sense that is unfortunately sometimes ignored. First off, you want to clean your place. Seeing trash everywhere will turn off most chicks. Secondly, you want to clean yourself. Take a shower and put on deodorant before your date. Nothing turns a girl off like body odor, so don’t be that guy. Thirdly, have some chill music playing in the background. Believe it or not, this makes a difference. Some good background music has a strong subconscious effect and will reduce the awkwardness of meeting a stranger (if a chick is particularly shy or tense, I will actually ask her what her favorite type of music is and then put it on. This works really well and subconsciously creates instant comfort for her) Last but not least, have a variety of alcohol. No, you’re not trying to get the girl drunk but, just by having a drink in her hand will help her subconsciously relax and take the social pressure off. Most girls wants to be able to say something like “Yeah, you know we had a few drinks and one thing lead to another”
5) The date - Whether you meet the girl at a bar or at your place, you want to maintain the vibe I talked about from the start. Give her a confident hug and keep things fun and flirty. And equally importantly, assume compliance. When meeting her inside my apartment, I always just assume that she’s coming with me. Then, I assume that she’s going to be comfortable going inside. For the first few minutes, I am always very laidback and give her a chance to get comfortable with the new surroundings. Once I sense that she is, then I smoothly start escalating. There is no exact sequence you need to follow, just be smooth and gradually escalate (Shown in the video). The key thing to keep in mind is that she is very likely at your place for a reason. It’s your game to lose, but as long as you make her feel comfortable, turn her on, and successfully overcome any possible concerns, then you will very likely smash.
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