[FR] Flaky Bubble Butt Latina Tinder Lay Report - All Screenshots included with Detailed Breakdown

Aristox · 2017-12-28T00:58:12+00:00

I think you made that far harder for yourself than you needed to. She wasn't particularly flaky, rather you kept missing the signs she was giving you, and it's clear in your analysis you misinterpreted them too. And that just made it take longer before she was really willing to meet you.

You started with being sexual, and the two of you had a decent back and forth flirting. That's solid, but girls almost always want more than just a sexual connection; they also want to learn that you're funny, interesting, safe, etc. So after a bit of flirting, when she was satisfied that you could turn her on, she asked you to open up about your life- "what is your story", what do you do etc.

If you had have responded well to this, then she would have been thinking "wow this sexy guy who knows how to flirt and wants to get freaky is also decently mature and can have like a normal conversation too! I might just have found a great catch!" But you basically ignored her saying that and continued to try to just sexually tease her etc, then she was disappointed and lost some attraction to you, which you ended up spending like the 60% rest of the conversation rebuilding. You gave the impression that, while you could hande yourself being sexual (important) you weren't as strong at handing yourself in a normal conversation just getting to know someone. This doesn't come across as mysterious tho, it comes across as untrustworthy, the bad side of that coin.

Later, when she asked if you were all talk, this was just a throwaway flirting line. She was hoping for something similarly flirty back. But instead of sending her a casual flirty response back to stir her emotions, you sent her like hard "proof" that you could satisfy women, in the form of a screenshot from another girl. This is cringey af. And your choice to respond to an emotional message with an analytic and fact based response shows both lack of social awareness and makes you seem like a nerd trying to 'demonstrate high value' by offering a testimonial from a satisfied customer. Very uncool. This is a big turn off for her, and when you follow it up by asking why she is being weird, when you're the one who made a big unsexy misstep makes you seem even less desirable as it reinforces this idea that you're less good at reading subtle cues, less good with women, and generally less perceptive than you were claiming to be before. Again you were able to redeem yourself there but this is the second time you shot yourself majorly in the foot. This time more severely than before. I literally cringed when i read that and it seems she did too.

Also of note, especially towards the end, when you're getting into logistics more and moving towards setting up a meetup, she gives multiple indications that she's not completely comfortable with the idea. She dresses this up with things like "you're not a serial killer are you?", etc. But what she's really expressing is that she doesn't really trust you yet, and doesn't feel completely comfortable. Now this partially stems from the fact that there's a certain amount of risk in a girl meeting up with a random guy on tinder normally, but it's made worse by the fact that your missteps and faux pas's earlier in the conversation subconsciously give the impression that you're not totally socially calibrated. The untrustworthyness comes because if someone isn't as socially calibrated as you'd like them to be, you can't be totally sure they will act as expected, or (importantly) pick up on your subtle cues and react appropriately (because they've already shown theyve acted inappropriately in the past). So there's a bit of danger there, because what if (as a girl) you go over to some guy's house, but then you want to slow things down/back up/etc and they dont pick up on that, or misread you, or react angrily or in some way that a normal cool person wouldnt. Having those potential risks in the back of your head makes it less easy to give yourself over to the situation; especially if you've been talking about having some kind of BDSM situation, in which case trust and safety etc are even more vital.

So what you should have done when she first started putting out those signals is to act in a way to strengthen your identity as trustworthy, socially aware, not a risk, etc. But instead you actually teased her about being nervous, which isnt really the right move. She's detecting that the two of you are slightly out of sync, and she feels it's you who aren't acting fully 'normally'. When you imply it's actually her, that doesn't create a bit of banter like you would get in push-pull; rather it entrenches that conflict in your worldviews and solidifies the distance between you. I think what you should have done is, rather than tease her for being nervous, do something like feign being nervous yourself- ask her if she's a serial killer. Pretend to be worried she's gonna seduce you just to rob you or something.

By doing that you would show you recognise and can appreciate the worries she's having (and thereby look more like you are socially aware and trustworthy) while releasing the negative pressure with light-hearted humour.

However having said all that, clearly you did enough to close in the end. Everyone makes mistakes but clearly you did enough stuff well to end up looking like an attractive prospect for her so nice one. I think you just made it a lot harder for yourself than you had to, cause she wasn't really being flaky, you just weren't being as sexy as you thought :P

But nice one man well done, and she looks hot af so nice pull.

didled · 2017-12-28T08:13:13+00:00

I won’t post her voice for ethical reasons but here’s a pic of her naked ass I snuck🤔

stymy · 2017-12-28T00:39:49+00:00

Lmao this guy's game is weak. What was that shit with the screenshot? I can't believe people are paying for a book he wrote. Are y'all serious??

pornninja · 2017-12-27T19:16:30+00:00

Good breakdown man. It's nice to see a successful field report now and again. Tinder game is such a pain in the ass. Power to you for putting up with her shit for so long.

Flexappeal · 2017-12-28T00:56:38+00:00

this is so fucking dumb

greenday5494 · 2017-12-28T00:06:27+00:00

I think its funny how much work it is to get laid as a dude.

A_Suffering_Panda · 2017-12-27T22:41:42+00:00

I'm kind of surprised you even wanted to close by the end of it. I got exhausted just reading it. I see no reason to put so much energy into this girl who isn't willing to invest in you

Steve_Savage · 2017-12-27T23:16:53+00:00

She did all the work, all he did was not do anything stupid.

leddituser123 · 2017-12-27T23:00:08+00:00

How old are you? How old is she?

natephant · 2017-12-28T17:02:27+00:00

I don’t understand how this is getting so much praise and upvotes. This is a great example of a girl who is actively looking for someone to fuck and would have/ will fuck just about anyone who’s willing.

kakarot12 · 2017-12-27T22:27:38+00:00

Not into black guys

Great post, thanks. Wonder why girls like that flake for future meet ups after you already had sex

genresliceoflife00 · 2017-12-28T00:48:39+00:00

Great report thank you for sharing. Really wonderful that you're giving us all this info.

I really wonder though, about your game. Like after making the vibe sexual and teasing her why did you keep making it all about sex when she was clearly not comfortable enough to go straight to your house but she was probably comfortable enough to meet you? Do you find that girls are more likely to meet you when you're basically saying it's straight to your house for sex? Why not meet her where she's comfortable like a bar by your house and then pull to your place? It just seems like you made it harder than it needed to be and you could've had her meet up with you sooner. Then again I don't do Tinder game so I don't know, but that's what I'd do with a girl I would meet outside IRL.

But apart from that very interesting and obviously it worked out for you, thank you for the information. I'll definitely incorporate some more of the sexual tonality into my game. To tell you the truth though I can't be bothered to game a girl over text. I'd just call and get her to meet me and do it all in person, and if it goes well try and escalate during the date. But who knows, maybe there's something to be said for the Tinder thing, I guess I just can't be bothered.

yallapapi · 2017-12-28T10:41:00+00:00

Nice report but damn that seems like a lot of work

DatingCoach111 · 2017-12-27T21:59:13+00:00

Not bad. Not bad at all.

zbf · 2017-12-28T00:38:54+00:00

Finally some content. You go my dude!!

circlhat · 2017-12-29T03:39:43+00:00

Ignore the hate, your field report was good, sadly this sub has a lot of nice guys who will defend women at every turn, some guys are beyond saving

Kebix14 · 2017-12-27T19:19:17+00:00

So much value!

Title	[FR] Flaky Bubble Butt Latina Tinder Lay Report - All Screenshots included with Detailed Breakdown
Author	finchfry157
Upvotes	175
Comments	73
Date	December 27, 2017 6:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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