How do you "Be the Party" when you're alone

s4ndman1 · 2019-06-21T09:53:04+00:00

I have a few tips. As I was an introvert when I came to my home town and now I know at least one group of people when I walk into my watering hole (pub if you missed it). If you cant already walk up to a group of people and introduce your self, sit down and talk to them then skip this message read this first otherwise if you want to know how to become the party and can already introduce your self skip this reply and read the reply to this comment.

I went through a baby step process. I could not talk to people to save my life. First I talked to the bartender and befriended him (This is great for social proof and helps a ton down the line, the bartender sometimes wing for me as well). I eventually took the next leap which is to talk to the people that the bartender is helping out currently. At first it was hard to keep the conversation going but the more you do it the easier it gets.

That is how I made my first group of friends in my home town. Was talking to a random guy getting a drink while the bartender served him. He said I was cool and invited me back to his table to chill and have drinks. We have been friends for 3 years.

At this point I was really cracking out of my shell. I wanted to go out more and meet more people though my new group of friends don't want to go out every night. Also waiting for a stranger to buy a drink and them inviting me back to their table was taking to long to happen. The last step was to actually walk over to the tables where the people were partying. The trick is to look for a group of people that are having a fun time (Laughing, smiling, teasing etc) Those are the group of people you want to approach as their emotions are positive. Walk on over and introduce your self. First make an excuse "Hey guys. My friends are meeting me up here, they are a bit late, is it fine if I join you guys" being a bit more cocky also has its perks so instead of asking permission, grant it yourself "so you guys are my new best friends until they arrive" and sit down.

See my reply on this comment to transition to girls.

Weather53 · 2019-06-21T07:45:36+00:00

I have lots of things to say about this, but I think the most important one is to “know your environment”. You have to know what kind of people you’ll be interacting with so you can choose the best approach. Social interactions are so situational it’s hard to give specific advice. It’s ideal to choose a place where you’ll have some things in common with people so it will be easy to start conversations around those common interests. So my advice would be to know your environment and have an arsenal of topics/things to talk about that you know they’ll respond well to.

Airporthoboxd · 2019-06-21T13:36:40+00:00

Dude don't listen to rsd. Don't see nightgame as this huge escapade to get sex. I literally just go out at night to have fun. Dance bro, chat up guys and girls ask them how they're nights going etc. Get drunk man! Rsd is totally bulls hitting when they say they don't drink when they go out. They only do it so the media won't attack them saying they're taking home drunk chicks (which they do). Just have fun bro it's a party.

Title	How do you "Be the Party" when you're alone
Author	leokinde
Upvotes	4
Comments	4
Date	June 21, 2019 6:34 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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