How to deal with girls in clubs?

stime22 · 2019-06-22T11:34:33+00:00

I can only talk about techno / trance clubs and parties. It happens non verbally. Make eye contact, if she responds a couple of times, hug her :) and it's a win

spinsilo · 2019-06-22T10:40:18+00:00

Clubs are hard because you can't hear people talk. Normally I just try to have a really open energy, laughing with friends, doing exaggerated dances or something and having fun. Then if I see a nice girl maybe I'll smile and high five her, then depending on her response maybe I'll pull her in, playful hug, and release. If she releases easily then I'll just carry on with my own thing and let it be a short punctuated interaction, but if she is more reluctant to release, maybe she keeps an arm out to hold hands or something, then I'll grab both hands decisively, and continue dancing. Playfully at first, then I'll start to escalate, and if possible move to somewhere to at least have a short conversation to build a bit of report before going further.

Personally I don't like the "edge in and start grinding" tactic. I tend to find that is more successful with lower quality girls, and the indirectness can seem a bit creepy to some girls I think.

ImJustSo · 2019-06-22T15:21:30+00:00

Interact using everything but your words. You have eyes, you have a smile, a grin, eyebrows, hands, feet, hips, a brain to move them all and a desire to communicate. So just do it. You might even find that you can "be a different person" when you remove your words from the interaction.

I took American Sign Language in college as my foreign language. Learned a lot about non-manual signals (eyes, body language). One thing that I've always found interesting is how differently I express myself when I take my words away. It's interesting about others, too. You miss a lot when words are involved, but you take them away and suddenly you can see everything a person is doing. You have time and freedom yourself to think about what you want to express using only your body and face. You have time to think about what the other person is doing with theirs and react to it.

Then you take her outside and you can both use yours words a little bit, but go back inside, or take her home and recreate that physical conversation you were having before. You can even maintain that physical conversation while taking your verbal conversation an entirely different direction.

You'll unlock a superpower if you learn this ability. Control your expression of verbal and sub-verbal communication and suddenly every conversation becomes a lot more interesting. A lot more stimulating, for all parties.

A lot of guys here get stuck in their heads, thinking about what to say to girls. Meanwhile, I'm in playland in my head. I don't think about what to say, I think about how I want to say anything at all. I think about how I want my body and my voice to make this girl know that I am a fucking blast. I am playful. I am sexy. I am all the things you want right now and this is fun being with you. I am having fun, just look at my body and face, girl! Aren't you?!

Meanwhile, I'm talking about the dumbest shit. I say the dumbest thing possible sometimes and it doesn't matter. I say sleazy shit sometimes. I say cringey shit sometimes. I say smooth as fuck things sometimes, too. None of my personal perceived mistakes matter, because they don't ruin the mood if I don't let them. I still act happy, playful, mischievous, sexy, and that's all girls can think about.

So, bringing my point back to clubs or loud environments. Removing the ability of both parties to speak can create a huge boost in your power over situations. If you think about it, you're removing one way to make social faux pas (talking) and focusing solely on presenting one form of expression (instead of two).

gnoppa · 2019-06-22T16:12:46+00:00

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NiversaCo · 2019-08-15T18:26:05+00:00

Mystery Method. Explains the psychology behind it all. Enough said.

LifeIsAdreamGoLucid · 2019-06-22T08:50:14+00:00

Being drunk just gets you out of your head so you DGAF and make moves. Im currently practising this without drinking because i want to actually learn.

As a good looking guy, girls will gravitate to your personal space. Yeah its strange AF when they don't even face you and it happens alot, pretending to bump into you etc. You will know if they are down when you put a hand on their hip and respond by usually grinding on you or just not wigging out in general, but it pays to be sure she is giving you that IOI and you seem prett sure.

firelitother · 2019-06-22T10:32:21+00:00

a girl glimpses at me, kind of walks around and then stops right infront of me, facing me with her back. It is a pretty clear sign to me that she is attracted to me (helps to be a model).

Crap. So many times I misintepreted this signal.

FiveManDown · 2019-09-19T17:59:52+00:00

When I was young we would just grab em by the pussy, but that shit is now ‘questionable’ behavior.

Title	How to deal with girls in clubs?
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Date	June 22, 2019 7:40 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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