So I was chatting with a girl recently over the course of a few days, I played it well with textbook mystique,escalation and aloofness

I met her and stayed the night at her place. The next morning I had texts on my phone “Thank you so so much for coming” “I had such an amazing time” etc etc

48 hours later my frame broke like a piece of rotten wood and after noticing her contact has lessened I asked her outright “So what’s next? Is this a one night thing?”

I am actually cringing writing this and even at the time I knew I should just be calm but I couldn’t help but push the self destruct button.

She told me to chill out and that she would like to see me again but if I don’t want to then that’s ok.

Things then went weird and 4 days of no contact went by before I asked her if she had any plans around July 22-24 ? As I am in her area (we live a distance apart but I frequently visit the area)

She replied “Yes I’m free, I would love to see you again”

I simply replied “sounds good to me” and then heard nothing more from her. The following day I messaged her reminding her to bring her heels next time (In a attempt to get the conversation back to the way it was) and I haven’t heard from her since (48 hrs)

So have I blown it ? The interest from her side has clearly either died or isn’t as strong since we met Do I message her a week before I visit and confirm we are still on ? Do I just general chat her for 3 weeks? Or do I just leave it ?

I feel like I have blown it but she seemingly wants to meet again ? She’s on what’s app all the time probably spinning plates and I feel like I have lost the initiative in the whole situation.